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    Default How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    So this may seem kind of vague, because it's hard for me to describe what it is I'm asking.

    Alright. Here. We. Gooooooo! There's this girl at work who's younger (18) and I'm 25, one of her managers. We've worked together the past 4 months, and I've been teasing her, having a good chemistry going - in a way - (the age gap is a little different than what I'm used to) and just in general I've gotten to know her and we've shared a few personal stories so I feel like as a co-worker, we're mildly close in a flirty way. Every time she sees me she initiates flirting and shit-tests but she's very, erhm, active, with other guys (so I hear) so I'm not the only one on her radar (no big deal). She's a sweet little ginger that reminds me of Lindsey Lohan, you know, the version of her before she went all drugs and DUI's. Cutest damn thing. Anyway I haven't seen her much at all in the last few weeks because she's getting ready for college and plays sports.

    Tonight, we had to work from 8-9:30, the whole store together as basically a cleaning crew, and I got to spend some time with her. She's still young so she has this magnetic, high-energy about her that I love, and she came right up to me and with glowing eyes and a smile says that she misses me and jokes that we get to spend time together. Sounded pretty good. But here's the problem, and what I've come here to ask:

    She would randomly walk by me while I was cleaning something and grab and rub my arms to feel my biceps. I was so focused on what I was doing that I didn't know what to say off the bat. So as quick as I could, I said something to the effect of, "Hey! You can look but don't touch!" to which she responded with "I already did" and stuck her tongue out at me, smiled, and walked away.

    A few more instances like this happened, and one or two where, on a different level, I could tell she was trying to joke around with me and kind of do that joking vibe as opposed to flirting, and I just feel like I'm starting to become such a boring-ass adult that I said something weird that didn't jive or feel right to me, or wasn't as upbeat and fun as her. I come up short in what would otherwise be an ideal opportunity to really ramp it up with her, and many other girls I've had this experience with for that matter. I used to be there when I was younger and had more vitality for life, but now it's hard to get into the right head space and be spontaneous and quick, and in general fun with my banter.

    I think I've explained it pretty well. Basically I'm asking how can I train my brain again, or maybe come up with some sort of system, to be wittier and more fun-loving like I was when I was younger. There's so much material out there now that makes game seem like, well, just a game -- much of it divorcing the real romance, chemistry, and just in general living in the moment and giving love back that I haven't been able to find much on this subject besides something kind of New Age... like, Eckhart Tolle's Living In the Now or something...

    Any ideas? Or maybe I've demonstrated a lack of something apart of my inner game that you guys intuit I could work on that could make this issue take care of itself? Regardless, I appreciate the feedback.

    I came on here tonight in search of guidance because she went to the fun chinese restaurant next-door with a few of the girls we work with and didn't invite me or say good bye. I know that whatever I'm trying to explain is a big source of disappointment in myself, and that I want to get this part of my life completely and 100% handled... before (I fear) I become as disillusioned, lazy and apathetic as my parents' generation. Thanks again!

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    Default Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    "How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?"


    Trial and error and constant practice. If you want it to become second nature then you have to keep doing it until it just becomes instinctive. Take sports and or the military for example, a basketball player would stay after training just to shoot a few thousand hoops to ingrain the technique into his muscles. The military does the same by making soldiers learn things repeatedly just so that when the situation calls for it, thinking on their feet is cast away and instincts kick in.

    If you want to become good in your conversations and to be quick witted then you need to have those conversations. Expand your circle of people that you can playfully flirt and tease and take note where things work and things don't. Look back in hindsight where you could have done something differently.

    I'm about your age and I flirt with anything and anyone and that includes women over twice my age. God knows how these cougars love nothing more than someone young to hit on them to rekindle their younger days. That's your platform to experiment with your conversations ;D

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    Default Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    Good you are out here being honest.

    I'm in no position to really help you out here but i'm sure that there are others who can help you out.

    ...some sort of system, to be wittier and more fun-loving like I was when I was younger.
    That's disturbing if you were witty when younger you still are...just build your self confidence.

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    Default Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    Persistence, practice & motivation.
    Watch comedy movies & shows... Hang out with people who are quick witted.

    Pick up on what they do.


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    Default Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    It's quite easy. The first thing to recognize is that being "quick and witty" actually involves no wit at all.

    It's being comfortable and saying whatever comes to your mind. Basically thinking out loud. This is ALL it is. You do it with friends/family all the time. You just need to do it with women you're interested in.

    This will come with more experience with good looking women so you become more comfortable around them. That's all you need to do! Cheers!

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    Default Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    Practice makes perfect here. You wanna be witty and random. Then practice that open up a few strangers with small talk, some funny comments, Think out loud. Be the person bold enough to make a public joke at some one else's expense. It's all ok. just curb the rudeness. Sarcasm works great also. practice chatting people up a bit just for talk then move on. Sure you'll seize a moment here and there to Number Close a few. Also try ending a few random chats with instant dates.. Interest some one in a cup of coffee or tea its a great way to transition into whats next and build some attraction. Focus on having fun. Your conducting your interview to see if you even want the number close in the first place. This puts the pressure up a bit but you should think like a hunter when you out. When people had to hunt to live they scanned the grounds for the prey that they wanted(HB10) but wouldn't pass up the chance you catch a less impressive meal that they were in position to catch with ease(HB7). After all 7-8 are more abundant and you can live of that meat as well. So stay sharp and hunt bro.. Good Luck
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    Default Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    By picking your target well you increase your success rates during the hunt. Know your prey, Notice the tattoo's that are dead give away's to her deviant nature. Notice her hair color, her style of dress, her energy level, the way she moves. All of this speaks volume's about her.
    Notice her interest in your approach before you just throw your net out hoping for the best. Adorn the proper lures to attract her (pea cocking if necessary). After all the prey in use to being hunted. To be successful you have to perfect your technique. Which is why I don't do pick up lines, If she has encountered that trap before you may blow your chance at a catch.
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    Default Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    Thanks gentlemen, this really gave me a lot of encouragement. I used to watch a lot of comedy movies and picked up on a lot of what an actor would say, then shaping it into something that wasn't stealing but more of integrating it into my own style. This was priceless to me and I'll do it again starting today by watching a comedy. Thanks for the reminder.

    I live in the suburbs and right now taking online classes and working makes it hard to expand my social circle -- especially when my friends (including girls) are nearby but have their own social circles on the weekends while I'm usually at work.

    I know that some of them have kind of started doing their own things as we've grown apart. I'm trying to figure out ways to incorporate some of them back into my social circle, and mostly what comes to mind is what I used to do: Say hey, make small talk, say some things that are funny/fun and give them The Vibe that I'd be fun to hang out with and wouldn't embarrass them if they brought me around, but would actually make them feel better to have me around. Coming up with what to say off the cusp to re-establish a connection with old friends can be tough though. I'll let you know!

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    Question Re: How can I be more quick on the draw when it comes to fast interactions?

    I am new here. What other advice could I receive, especially about flirting?


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