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    Question Approaching a girl that you know has a boyfriend

    So I've doing PUA for about 5 months now, so I'm a newbie with lots to learn and FAR from being a master PUA. I've had lots of success getting over my Approach Anxiety, getting numbers, some dates and a couple of lays. However I've run into a situation where I have no idea what to do next and could really use some help from more experienced and master PUA's.

    I'm a college student, but I'm also taking night classes for extra credit so I can graduate with earlier and maybe go for a masters degree. In one of my night classes is a REALLY hot girl. We've only had a few classes so far and I haven't interacted or even made eye contact with her yet. I'm going to change that (hopefully next class in a few days) but there is one thing that I need to figure out first;

    As far as I know she isn't a full time day student like me, she just takes night classes. However I have been able to find out that she does have a boyfriend. I don't know the details: how/living situation/whether they are happy or anything like that, but I do know she is seeing someone in an exclusive relationship. I have had success approaching girls I don't know and using a boyfriend destroyer, but I've never had to do it on a girl I know going in has one. I don't know if I should approach any differently if me already knowing about the boyfriend is just messing with my head.

    Any advice as to how I should approach, or what I should do if she brings up the boyfriend would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance fellas!

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    Default Re: Approaching a girl that you know has a boyfriend

    First off, do not listen to anything anyone tells you from class about her. Even if it's a reliable source. People repeat stuff ALL the time. She could have told a guy in class she had a BF because he was a loser. Or the person who told you she has a BF could be trying to get her (or trying to "watch out" for her). Just cause someone says something doesn't mean it's true. So do not worry about that in the least. Imho, it will actually help you! Girls with BF will always be looking for new emotional experiences. Having a BF can get boring.

    So just game her as usual. If you do good, she won't bring it up. I have flirted with girls I absolutely knew were engaged to be married and they NEVER brought it up. I even asked about the nice ring they had on and they said only that it was a gift lol! Barriers exist only in your head!If she does bring him up, just tell her "oh man... I'm so sorry! I didn't know you were digging me that much!" Follow up with "I understand. When girls feel tempted by me, they bring up that they have a BF. Well don't worry, I'll still let you be my friend!" You have to act like her saying she has a BF is a defense mechanism. A reflex action. Something that's not serious.

    Then game as normal but nothing too sexual at first. Tease and use a BF destroyer at another time. And try to get her alone also. Maybe meet up to study before or after class. Be relaxed and chill and build comfort.
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    Default Re: Approaching a girl that you know has a boyfriend

    Apart from what lockdown said, don't let her cheat the guy with you, it will only make him hurt and make her guilty.

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    Default Re: Approaching a girl that you know has a boyfriend

    You don't want a girl who will cheat.
    Because she'll be more likely to cheat on YOU too.
    If she's actually taken, let it go & move on. There are plenty of single women in the world.

    But if you dont really know if she has a bf, then give it a shot.


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    Default Re: Approaching a girl that you know has a boyfriend

    Thanks for the advice fellas. It was super helpful. (Sorry for taking so long to reply, I was home for Thanksgiving and busy with family). I do know for a fact that she has a boyfriend because my cousin had a class with her and he said a boyfriend was mentioned in passing and that he saw them walking and holding hands. Now she didn't say that in response to my cousin hitting on her, because is a total AFC and is married and never so much as looks at another girl because he is "in love".

    I think part of it is that I am just psyching myself out because I know in advance and I keep thinking about it. Does anyone have any suggestions for a good boyfriend destroyer, if she brings it up? If she says anything I was thinking of using this one:

    Her: "I have a a boyfriend"
    Me: "Does he treat you well?"
    Her: "Yes..."
    Me: "I wouldn't" (insert cocky smile here)
    Her: Smiles and or laughs...etc.



    And if she says no I can jump all over that and convince her he's not the right guy for her. Either way no matter how she answers I can use it to my advantage.



    Thoughts? Suggestions? Thanks again fellas. It is appreciated!


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