For guys who are clueless & want to see a great example of “how to get the girl”, I must point you in the direction of “The Twilight Saga”… and more specifically, Edward Cullen.
Author, Stephanie Meyer, painted a clear picture of the type of guy who can make girls swoon.
The reason Bella was more drawn to (& totally hooked on) Edward instead of Jacob, is because of the emotional reactions she had.
Edward was mysterious / slightly aloof. He wasn't always available to her. He was calm & in control of his own emotions & demonstrated a chivalrous side when they eventually got together. There was a sense of excitement & adventure when she was with him.
Jacob on the other hand, was needy, over-eager & an emotional wreck in the beginning. He was “The nice guy”… he was “the friend who listened to her problems” & more or less became the 2nd option. (He also basically pushed Bella closer to Edward by constantly trash-talking him.)
Jacob did everything wrong in the early stages… including trying to make a connection based on commonalities & their early childhood friendship. (Welcome to the friend zone, Jacob!)
Edward Cullen exhibited the perfect combination of confidence, body language & independence. He let Bella know he WANTED her.
Jacob practically begged for attention & came off as NEEDING her. He whined & pined for Bella… practically smothering her. (Talk about making a girl uncomfortable!)
Jacob tried to persuade Bella into choosing him by “selling himself”… TALKING about all he had to offer…
Edward however; DEMONSTRATED the characteristics of what a real man is.
To sum it up, ACTIONS speak louder than words.
You can talk the talk; but if you can’t walk the walk, you’re going nowhere.
Don’t TELL a girl how awesome you are… SHOW HER.
So yeah, the “Twilight Saga” can do some of you fellas a lot of good, if you pay attention.