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    Default Asked her few times with no success?

    So, this girl I met in one of my classes last year, I've been trying to get to go on a date with me. I've asked her out a few times, but hadn't had any success with her. I honestly don't think the problem is she just doesn't want to hang out with me.

    The first time I asked her out we got around to agreeing a Friday afternoon would work for both of us since she was going to be busy that morning and Saturday. But then, I got a call about a job interview, so I had to cancel. The interview didn't take as long as I thought it would, so I texted her when it finished asking her if she wanted to reschedule or not. I ended up telling her I'd let her know when I was free again.

    The next time, I asked her if she wanted to go bowling, and she told me she wasn't any good at it. I joked about her not being good at a lot of things. I don't fully remember what happened this time, but I think we agreed she would text me the next day to let me know if she could or not since she didn't know if she was doing something with her parents or not. I told her to let me know by 3. Of course, she forgot, and at like 4 or 5 she texted me saying, "sorry" and explaining she had just gotten back from another city. She was helping her parents with something. So, she couldn't have come anyway, which I figured.

    Since then, once or twice I've tried to be "spontaneous" and ask her out for the same day. But I've realized that doesn't really work with her for a lot of different reasons. But other than those times, I haven't made an effort since. Her parents are both her ride to places, and ultimately decide whether or not she can go do things with anyone.

    So, what can I do to finally get her out with me? My last ditch effort was going to be asking her to Prom, but I don't know about that anymore. It really sucks not having a car. Honestly, I feel like the biggest barrier is transportation for both of us.

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    Default Re: Asked her few times with no success?

    Build attraction before you ask a girl out.

    And it sounds like you're both really young, so you have bigger obstacles to overcome, than the rest of us would.

    But attraction is still the key factor.


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    Default Re: Asked her few times with no success?

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    Build attraction before you ask a girl out.

    And it sounds like you're both really young, so you have bigger obstacles to overcome, than the rest of us would.

    But attraction is still the key factor.
    We're both 17, so not as young as you might think. Although, she's a junior and I'm a senior. But what would you recommend to increase attraction with her? Honestly, I've gotten the feeling that she likes me before. One thing I've realized I need to do with her is get her talking about more deep/personal things. How would you recommend me to go about this? I was thinking about playing 20 questions for this purpose, since I won't be able to see her until January when schools starts back up. Actually, do you think I should try to build rapport with her over text while we're on break from school? I wasn't planning to talk to her at all until we get back to school, but now I'm thinking to might be a good idea to.

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    Default Re: Asked her few times with no success?

    I gathered you were under 18...

    And no, rapport isn't gonna help build attraction.
    Rapport builds friendships.
    Rapport without attraction = friend zone.

    Fun is the ultimate attraction switch.


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    Default Re: Asked her few times with no success?

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    I gathered you were under 18...

    And no, rapport isn't gonna help build attraction.
    Rapport builds friendships.
    Rapport without attraction = friend zone.

    Fun is the ultimate attraction switch.
    Ok, so, naturally my next question would be, "how do we have fun without hanging out?" To which of course the answer would be something along the lines of make her laugh, Kino, etc, when you're around her. So, next question is what if we already have a lot of fun when we're together?

    If anything, it seems like rapport is what I'm missing here.


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