Re: Going out alone - nothing happens
Go to quieter places where it's easier to talk. If you try walking up to a group of people in a club and get into their little group, it's going to feel awkward as hell, because they can't hear a damn thing you say.
Start off sitting between two groups of people because it doubles your chances right off the bat and there's often an empty seat between them anyway. Also, depending on how they're seated, or how well you can open them, it might actually appear to some that you are a linchpin between the 2 groups - bam!
Try to sit somewhere that is more brightly lit, so people can see you clearly from across the room (this puts a little pressure on you as well). It also gets them used to seeing you. After 10 minutes under that spotlight, you're someone they are familiar with, rather than a complete stranger lurking in the dark shadows and coming out of nowhere.
Walk around the room before sitting down. This gives you time to choose your seat. During this time, make a point to make eye contact with several people and even give a nod or a slight wave to a few of them without approaching. It'll help make you look like you belong there and soften your approach later on if you decide to walk over.
If you're new to a place, sit near where the servers/bartenders are coming in and out. You can say a few things to each of them. They are paid to be polite. Don't waste their time, but make sure that they all know you're there and don't think you're a total creep. This can pay off down the line when they approach you first amongst a group of strangers.
Tip well. Find one waitress, give her $20, and tell her to keep (whatever you're drinking) coming. You can even tell her you're a bit of a lightweight and ask her to make them a bit on the weaker side for you (most places I go to will only charge you for every other one, in that case. Another option is to tell her to alternate between, say, a rum and coke, and a coke with just a tiny splash of rum. That will keep their bar tab on you easier - you'll get a slightly weak one at regular price, followed by a complimentary "splash" on the next. Say you just want the splash to give it the "flavor"). That way, you can finish more of them, and have her coming and "taking care of you" all night without ever having to stand in a line looking like a chump. Just make sure she's going to be there all night long. (Note: this trick KILLS at open bars where the line is 10 people deep all night... but some waitress comes and delivers your drink in front of everyone else, before yours is even empty!). Suddenly, everyone's wondering why you're getting special treatment. Another hint on this trick: If you're with a group of guys, same concept, except all 6 of you throw in $10, you tell the waitress to remember all of your faces. And bam, she's already $60 richer. You've pretty much made her night instantly profitable. You'll never have to tip her again, but yet the drinks will keep magically flowing towards you. And by sticking with the same drinks every time, you make her job a lot easier as well!
Open up a couple of guys while walking past with a simple, "Hey! You seem like a cool dude! What's your name? I'm so-and-so. Cool seeing you here, man!" Then just walk away. No risk of rejection, but the dude will remember you and probably be cool towards you for the rest of the night (social proof).
Ummm... do I really need to give you more ideas? Or is that enough?
Hypnotist, NLP geek. I've done: Tao of Badass, Hacking Attraction, How To Date Multiple Women (Pellicer's stuff), Get the Girl, How to Talk to Hot Women, No Strings Attached (Mehow's stuff), and now I'm getting into RSD's stuff. I don't go out a lot, but I kill it when challenged