On Thursday I have a lunch date with an HB 8. Sheís actually a friend Iíve known for about 3 years. Sheís always had a boyfriend, but recently became available. Sheís already comfortable around me, and Iím hoping I can get her to see me as more than a friend. Weíre doing lunch at a Chinese restaurant. Itís low key. Iím not picking her up, but instead am meeting her there.
Iíve already done some C&F with her in other venues when she had a boyfriend. At lunch I want to do some more C&F and bring in dhv stories. In other venues itís often been much louder and so this is a chance for some good communication. The thing is, I donít know that this restaurant is all that Kino friendly. It has wooden booths that are essentially benches facing opposite one another instead of the wrap-around leather booths that are more comfortable. The other choice is a table.
Here are my ideas to make it more kino friendly.
1. Arrive there before she does and toss my big coat on the opposite bench and then invite her to join me next to me. What concerns me about this is itís unusual to sit side by side in that kind of place, and inviting her to be by my side right when she arrives may make her uncomfortable.
2. Choose a table with 4 chairs, get there first, and then invite her into a chair thatís at a 90 degree angle from me instead of opposite me. (Do I pull it out for her?) Seems like a better option than the first, but is it less comfortable in the chairs.
3. Ditch this restaurant in favor of one with the leather wrap-around booths. Thereís still time to change the venue, but does changing my mind make me look weak? I could always concoct some excuse such as their food is better.
Oh, one more thing. Should I pay for this thing? I know a lot of PUA sources say not to pay for dates, but Iím the one who invited her. It feels weird asking her to fork over half. Iím thinking maybe I pay, and if she offers I can say she can treat me next time.