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    Default Re: Last Semester of Undergrad Need Help Landing Girl ASAP

    I think drgnsfire 12 had it, you're not building attraction you're too much of good guy. When was the last time you shushed a girl? When was the last time you told a girl you're not going to do something for her? When was the last time you forgot the girl's name?

    I'm intrigued by your situation. Keep me posted.
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    Default Re: Last Semester of Undergrad Need Help Landing Girl ASAP

    Ok I'll try to give you something here but it's hard for me because women are naturally attracted to me. I just be myself and it works (as long as I don't get in my OWN way).

    During my senior year of high school I finally noticed something; I always had 6-9 women who were swooning over me hardcore who I wasn't interested in. Allot of these girls were pretty damn attractive too, definitely allot of 7's. The thing is I wasn't interested unless they were one of the dozen hottest chicks in my school. I had opportunities with some of these really attractive women but I always blew it. I was also getting eye fckd by ALLOT of these women but I was too scared to talk to them. I finally figured it out, I was treating the girls I wanted differently then the girls I didn't want. Once I stopped doing this I got action like a rockstar, it's too bad this didn't happen until the last semester of my senior year (Oh the threesomes I could have had)!

    I'm sure you've already read the thread I posted and it sounds like you already do that. I don't know what it is but pretty much every attractive girl I've had in a class became attracted to me at some point by doing this. Even ones who had boyfriends. There very well could be things I do unconsciously that I don't realize, but being engaged and smiling allot really helps. One of the biggest ioi's is when you walk into the room and she immediately locks eye contact with you and doesn't relinquish it. If you smile and she gives you a really genuine smile back it's on. The other IOI I always looked for (and it always happened) is what she would wear after you talk to her for the first time. If you have a good conversation with her for the first time, and the next class period she's dressed to the nines, she's into you big time.

    Here's another thread I wrote that works very well in a college situation. https://www.puaforums.com/approachin...know-what.html This is really all I do.

    Also give her some crap sometimes. Shush her if she's talking at a bad time. If she says something silly razz her on it (girls say silly things all the time). If she wants help in a class don't just give her the answer, ask her what she thinks about it. Then let her figure it out for herself. Educated women really enjoy mental stimulation and some of them get turned on by it. I honestly treat the women I want no differently in a classroom situation then anyone else in the class, and I definitely don't give them special treatment.

    If you're a popular/outgoing guy at your school I guarantee there are at LEAST a couple attractive girls who are really into you. You just don't have the experience to tell if they like you or not. Trust me on this one. It might not be the girl in this post, but there are some girls out there that dream about you all the time. I like to look at it this way "If I think a girl likes me she does like me". This has only failed me once or twice.

    Remember the story about my high school days? I used to have some of the hottest women, who were two years older then me, hold my hand when I walked down the hall. I used to think they might like me but I would say "oh these are just my sisters friends being nice". Guess what? They ACTUALLY liked me and tried REALLY hard to sleep with me but I was an idiot. I could have been the freshman dating some of the most attractive women in my school who were juniors. I actually just hooked up with one of them last year when I saw her at the bar, and she admitted that she wanted to sleep with me when we were younger! Don't be that guy, figure out which cute girls like you and make a move already!

    Oh I almost forgot. One of the best IOI's you can get is if you just meet a woman, or don't know her very well and she adds you out of the blue on facebook. This means she hunted you down and wants to know more about you. She's thinking about you. If this has happened to you recently act on it.

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    Default Re: Last Semester of Undergrad Need Help Landing Girl ASAP

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    Ok I'll try to give you something here but it's hard for me because women are naturally attracted to me. I just be myself and it works (as long as I don't get in my OWN way).

    During my senior year of high school I finally noticed something; I always had 6-9 women who were swooning over me hardcore who I wasn't interested in. Allot of these girls were pretty damn attractive too, definitely allot of 7's. The thing is I wasn't interested unless they were one of the dozen hottest chicks in my school. I had opportunities with some of these really attractive women but I always blew it. I was also getting eye fckd by ALLOT of these women but I was too scared to talk to them. I finally figured it out, I was treating the girls I wanted differently then the girls I didn't want. Once I stopped doing this I got action like a rockstar, it's too bad this didn't happen until the last semester of my senior year (Oh the threesomes I could have had)!

    I'm sure you've already read the thread I posted and it sounds like you already do that. I don't know what it is but pretty much every attractive girl I've had in a class became attracted to me at some point by doing this. Even ones who had boyfriends. There very well could be things I do unconsciously that I don't realize, but being engaged and smiling allot really helps. One of the biggest ioi's is when you walk into the room and she immediately locks eye contact with you and doesn't relinquish it. If you smile and she gives you a really genuine smile back it's on. The other IOI I always looked for (and it always happened) is what she would wear after you talk to her for the first time. If you have a good conversation with her for the first time, and the next class period she's dressed to the nines, she's into you big time.

    Here's another thread I wrote that works very well in a college situation. https://www.puaforums.com/approachin...know-what.html This is really all I do.

    Also give her some crap sometimes. Shush her if she's talking at a bad time. If she says something silly razz her on it (girls say silly things all the time). If she wants help in a class don't just give her the answer, ask her what she thinks about it. Then let her figure it out for herself. Educated women really enjoy mental stimulation and some of them get turned on by it. I honestly treat the women I want no differently in a classroom situation then anyone else in the class, and I definitely don't give them special treatment.

    If you're a popular/outgoing guy at your school I guarantee there are at LEAST a couple attractive girls who are really into you. You just don't have the experience to tell if they like you or not. Trust me on this one. It might not be the girl in this post, but there are some girls out there that dream about you all the time. I like to look at it this way "If I think a girl likes me she does like me". This has only failed me once or twice.

    Remember the story about my high school days? I used to have some of the hottest women, who were two years older then me, hold my hand when I walked down the hall. I used to think they might like me but I would say "oh these are just my sisters friends being nice". Guess what? They ACTUALLY liked me and tried REALLY hard to sleep with me but I was an idiot. I could have been the freshman dating some of the most attractive women in my school who were juniors. I actually just hooked up with one of them last year when I saw her at the bar, and she admitted that she wanted to sleep with me when we were younger! Don't be that guy, figure out which cute girls like you and make a move already!

    Oh I almost forgot. One of the best IOI's you can get is if you just meet a woman, or don't know her very well and she adds you out of the blue on facebook. This means she hunted you down and wants to know more about you. She's thinking about you. If this has happened to you recently act on it.
    Thanks so much for taking the time to thoroughly analyze my situation and offer such great insight. This goes for the rest of you guys as well.

    To give you a better idea, I used to be really shy up until these last three years when I came home from 2.5 years of college at Cal Poly SLO as an engineering major. Really got nothing out of those years in terms of opportunities with women. Once I came back, I not only switched my major to business administration and transferred to Saint Mary's College of California in the Bay Area, but I had put in the time and effort to make substantial changes in how I approached life, and how I interacted with people. I began to be a much more outgoing person and started to be able to interact with others without having to worry about what they thought during my one year at CC before transferring to SMC.

    Once I transferred to SMC, I started to really try and go after the women I felt I had a chance with since I now not only was the "new guy," but being in a major where the guy to girl ratios were more evenly distributed, I started to embark on the game whenever I saw the opportunity.

    During my first year at SMC, and also throughout my part-time job as a server at a restaurant, my life took a substantial leap forward and through the numerous interactions with countless numbers of people in a variety of different situations, I began to learn to interact with people on the fly, and also gain more experience. This really helped boost my confidence, and I went after quite a few women, even got invited personally to some of their parties, outings, whatnot.

    Unfortunately, with almost all attempts failed, I started to realize that I was trying too hard to get at them by giving them the "special treatment." This 9/10 times, if not all, resulted in me getting friend-zoned. Although I met some great women and friends of theirs, no matter how hard I tried, even to get to know their friends, I never got what I wanted from them even to the slightest bit.

    Beginning this last summer, up through now, the tables really turned and I know most of you will laugh, but I started to use the "Yolo," "I don't give a fuck" attitude towards virtually every event in my life. I used this in a positive way to motivate myself to step over barriers that in the past prevented me from achieving what I wanted in any given situation. This probably was the best thing that ever happened to me because it helped me not only become a greater contributor in my classes, boost my grades, open the door to opportunities I never would have been shown otherwise, but also began to give me greater success with women. This boosted my confidence to the greatest level I have ever felt in my life, has helped me achieve a status where people seek after me for advice in anything, even with women, even though they have no idea of my past with women.

    Basically, I feel like I understand the game as this point, but unfortunately, it all came to me too late in the game. I graduate at the end of May, and still have not even had the opportunity to go all the way with a girl yet.

    I know I have high standards for what I want, and have dropped them substantially to open the door to more opportunities, I think my biggest problem now is that when I acquire attention from women indirectly (being in class and leading a discussion, at work motivating and taking the reigns of situations where I am seeked), I feel that I am missing the cues as to whether a girl is into me or not.

    I'm not going to lie, 90% of the women I have gone after or fooled around with were the outgoing and playful type where even when I have felt convinced that they were giving me 90% of the signs of attraction, I either tried too hard when I acted, or took too long to go to the next level and actually became friend-zoned. I've read Joshua Pelicers book as well as countless hours of research over the years on this, but I feel now I need to work on mind-fucking women via eye contact. In class I've stupidly been the first to break eye contact, or disregard it (retarded I know). I also have realized within the last month and half of this current semester I got nothing from the women I wanted to pursue in my classes, I feel that either eye contact or primarily the breaking the touch barrier, was the reason for my failed attempts. Once I realized this, I made the commitment to begin working on it in all aspects of my life and feel it's probably the only thing holding me back from advancing with these women.

    I've gone to clubs and danced with a few women, recently realized I can actually dance, and was able to freak with a few women, what a fucking relief! Also, I am better able to cold-approach them, but am still working on this. By having a boosted confidence level I try and treat every woman with the "it's whatever" attitude with where the situation goes from what I do with the initial approach moving forward, giving me more opportunities, but I still haven't had the success I want just yet, even in the classroom or on campus in general, as well as in my daily life. I've also stopped being the "nice guy" and doing things for women where I would have to go a great length, if I sense there is no return from them. Basic things, sure why not, but don't expect me to drop what I'm doing to please her from a "friend" standpoint.

    In my classes I've had women verbally give me brownie points for my achievements without me bringing them up, but that has been mostly from the ones I've friended. This girl from the original post jumped in too and commented, but that was it, I got no further with her.

    My strategy for the rest of the year is to treat everything with my ego held up high not to the level where I'm a douchebag, but in order to get women to come after me first, as well as do what I've been doing throughout the year by contributing to a large degree in class discussion, throwing in jokes here and there verbally when appropriate. Like directisbest's post, I've seen first hand that it clearly DOES work, I'm just trying to take the next steps from it in order to get the women I am able to indicate signs of interest from if that makes sense.

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    Default Re: Last Semester of Undergrad Need Help Landing Girl ASAP

    Dude my cousin went to Cal Poly and I visited him there years ago. There's definitely some good looking women around that town! I've spent allot of time in the Santa Cruz area and a decent amount in San Francisco. You're definitely in a good area for the volume of attractive women.

    In fact the first time I made out with a girl was in Santa Cruz. All of my cousins friends weren't interested in her but I thought she was smoking hot. Three years later (when she matured) she was a cheer leader for Arizona state and a bona fide ten. Now my cousin and his friends are all butt hurt they didn't mess around with her when they had the chance.

    Anyways back to your situation. Like I said before there's women at your school that like you. You're just not good at picking up the signs yet. Here's a few ioi's you can look for that I didn't mention.

    -If she touches you in any way (even if she hits you).
    -She becomes interested in something that you like. I have this happen all the time when women find out that I fish allot. They always go "Direct take me fishing!" All I hear is "Direct F me"! It never fails.
    -Looks at you when you enter a room and maintains eye contact/smiles. It's like every time you enter the classroom she's just been waiting for you.
    -Laughs allot, even when you make a bad joke.
    -Makes excuses to be around you

    I understand where you're coming from. I used to be extremely shy in high school and I broke out of my shell once I graduated. Your only problem now is not ending up in the friend zone and that my friend is very easy. I haven't heard the dreaded "lets just be friends" for 9 years now and I'll share my secret.

    You have to make a move when you first hang out with a girl. That's all you need to do, make a move on your first "date" with her. If you meet a girl and get her number, and she agrees to go out with you, she likes you. All you need to do is make out with her on the first date then progress further afterwards (Heck you can even sleep with her on the first date if you get good at it). You should be sleeping with her by the 6th time you hang out MAX (I'm usually sleeping with them by the third date but I've had some that take as long as 6). Always try and go as far as you can.

    If you do this you wont end up in the friend zone. If you mess up she will just stop talking to you, you won't be her friend and you will never hear those dreaded words.

    Now that you know how to stay out of the friend zone I'll tell you how to get her pants off. Read this https://www.puaforums.com/isolating-...rough-lmr.html Read it three times. Save it and read it again. This is how I figured it out and went from occasionally sleeping with a woman to sleeping with any woman I get alone. This is ten years of experience with more women then most men will sleep with in their life. It works. Kino even posted his strategy on this link and you should read that as well.

    Lets sum up the key points here.
    1. If you think a girl likes you she does
    2. If you just meet a girl and she agrees to hang out with you she likes you.
    3. When you're hanging out with said girl the FIRST time you need to make a move.
    4. Once you make out with her progress as rapidly as possible until you're sleeping with her.

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    Default Re: Last Semester of Undergrad Need Help Landing Girl ASAP

    Read this thread and decided to give it a shot. in my 2nd week of final semester so i simply participated more in classes, made jokes and had eye contact battles with almost everyone who looked my way. Also helped that lecturers know me and we banter a little in class sometimes so i appear sort of popular.

    had girls approach me(got my attention by touching me) during break time to get to know me and i managed to keep the convo fun but i wasnt interested in them so i dint do much follow up but now when we see each other they kind of light up and say hi enthusiastically. Something that doesnt happen to me with people i just met.

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    Default Re: Last Semester of Undergrad Need Help Landing Girl ASAP

    I've been doing this all semester. I'm like the knowledgeable class clown. The guy who cracks jokes all the time to engage the class while at the same time, am the go to guy with the answer, and see people taking notice of it, which helps greatly. Been making an effort to seriously maintain eye contact now, so I'll keep you guys posted. This thread has been of great value to me though, so I feel something is bound to go my way soon.

    I would still like to hear more from others in similar situations though. I feel this thread can help others as well to a great degree, so let's keep it going!


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