I'm reading all these AMOG threads on here; how to become one, how to beat one, how to spot one. I find it funny because the moment you start asking "how do you become one?" or make yourself look like one, your simply putting yourself behind on the social scale (or devaluing yourself if you will).
Alot of people will say that you have to hold/carry yourself right, do this and that. But to be a leader of people, the core elements can be put into what I like to call the 4 C's. It's very simple to remember and gives you the basics to learn to interact with society if done well, and by extension, learn how to Pickup.
You should always remain Cool, Calm, Collected and Confident. These tie in with one another so if you don't have one aspect you cannot have all 4 properly:
1. Cool: this means that you should always seem like nothing affects you in a negative way; like you're a block of ice. If a guy comes up to you and tries to break your hand in a hand shake, who cares? if you act like nothing happened the guy automatically puts himself on your level (or visa-versa) regardless of what he says, thus half of what you might have been worried about to start with is gone. Acting cool allows you brain to stay;
2. Calm: remain calm at all times. This will keep you thoughts together and will prevent verbal diarrhea. It will also show that anyones attempt to de-rail your brain won't work. This allows you to stay;
3. Collected: Keep yourself together and understand what is going on in the social situation both in front of you and around you. Try and collect as much information about the situation as possible. Staying collected will give you the information that helps to remain;
4. Confident: This is one of the more discussed of the four. While its got plenty of definitions I'll give my quick explanation. You should believe in yourself to such a degree that you know that there is nothing that you could stuff up, and even if you do stuff up socially, the other 3 C's will keep you sitting pretty.
The whole thing is a bit of a circle really. And I find that other men that don't have one or more of these attributes don't have the ability to be a great leader. Whilst sure you can add/take, modify or discuss any of the points above, these 4 core parts are the best way to remember how you should be thinking and acting.
These 4 concepts won't just improve your game if done properly, they have the ability to help and improve all aspects of your life (from your work to your family life).
So there it is. I know it's a bit of a long post but I hope it helps someone understand themselves a bit better.