What needs to be done is Direct Game. Being congruent means "forcing the decision upon youself and her". It means cutting out the bullshit of a wavering and faint connection and deciding unilaterally this is the moment that things happen. Being direct is about being congruent to the primal essence that you feel for whats in front of you and confronting all the uncertainty in a single moment of profound clarity. Its about changing the very energy in the vicinity with your action. Your action is a light and it lights up both the world and every dark corner of your own being. The only way something so radical could ever be achieved or believed in for a moment is if one is completely letting go as well. Not responsive reactive to her and not chasing. This action signifies the nature of your nonreactivity. It signals a line drawn in the sand and as needy as you believe it is it is. According to that nature its power is diminished but direct action taken without the slightest hesitation, the slightest wavering, and ultimately letting the chips fall where they may, including your own response and further involvement. All of it is a toss up and your direct action is the die. No more blause attempts to weasle your way in. Just a blunt take it or leave it here I am all out in the open engaged to the fullest without remorse.