For the last few months I was thinking to myself:"why don't I find most girls I see that attractive or want to get to know?" I just recently I finally found the answer...
Turns out what I want is a siren! You know the girl who all the guys are after and is showed with attention from all the guys and is very feminine and attractive.
I currently don't know if that is what I truly want or not but I think due to my lack of success with girls in the past I created that desire in myself. Maybe I just want to feel powered that I managed to get a siren, maybe I want status or ego boost..but what I realized is that was unconsciously seeking out sirens.
The problem is I have no idea how to get them plus I am super nervous when it comes to girls like this maybe because I put more importance on them, or maybe because I don't know what to do.
I was reading Mark Manson's book Models, and the main ideas of that book is to be nonneedy by investing in yourself and be more invested in your opinion of yourself than the opinion of others in you and to be vulnerable which means be honest with yourself about what tou want and be honest with others. If you like a girl you should tell her that without any other reason than to state your interested. Your intentions is what is important you don't say it because you want her to like you that is neediness.
However, the book is great but it's not easy to be like Mark is advising for a guy starting out. I want a way.to actually talk to these girls and maybe get them maybe ill realise something I wasn't aware of.
Any ideas on how to get these girls or any experience with them.
There is one girl in my college who is like that, she showed me some interest, lately she stood near me hovering around with her body in my direction and touching her hair saying approach me but I chickened out since then her interest dropped and I saw her doing the same with another guy!
She still looks at me but not the same way she used to, I would really like to hear your advice on this...