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    cocotuiri is offline PUA in Training
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    Angry Problems with Attraction Phase

    I have a problem with attracting women.

    My problem isn't that I can't approach women or that i can't talk to women. My problem is the attraction phase. For me it is easy to approach and talk to women in the clubs, on the street or on whatsapp. I can make them laugh and can have a wonderful conversation with them and I can see that they like me. But when i want to attract them something goes wrong in real life and on whatsapp. I'm bad in 'flirting' and in push and pulling them. I can find myself often in the 'friendzone'.

    Can somebody help me? Are there any books or video material?

    Cocotuiri

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Maybe trying too hard.
    Possibly maybe

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Quote Originally Posted by Gironon View Post
    Maybe trying too hard.
    Possibly maybe
    I think my problem is that I try too little and not that I try too much..

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Maximize your looks.... dress in a nice shirt... and some designer jeans... grow some facial hair if you don't have it.... gain muscle mass in your shoulders and arms...

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Maybe you need to ad some hints that your feeling them when your talking to them? See how they react. Like say "you remind of say Natalie Portman" Depending on the girl and the security level or their confidence I'll either say that person she reminds me off is "really pretty" or I'll say "accept shes alot prettier" teasing them, but then comeback with "no but actual you are really pretty."

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    Maximize your looks.... dress in a nice shirt... and some designer jeans... grow some facial hair if you don't have it.... gain muscle mass in your shoulders and arms...
    I think that isn't my problem neither. I get lots of compliments that my style is great, that I smell good, i have no facial hair (unfortunately) so that could be a problem, but I think that isn't one. I think my problem is with my body language and my conversation skills like taking the lead, be very interesting and how to flirt..

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Quote Originally Posted by kmm179 View Post
    Maybe you need to ad some hints that your feeling them when your talking to them? See how they react. Like say "you remind of say Natalie Portman" Depending on the girl and the security level or their confidence I'll either say that person she reminds me off is "really pretty" or I'll say "accept shes alot prettier" teasing them, but then comeback with "no but actual you are really pretty."
    Yes I will try that, I think that is maybe one of my problems, thank you! Do you know further some books / video's or any material that could help me with this problem?

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Quote Originally Posted by cocotuiri View Post
    Yes I will try that, I think that is maybe one of my problems, thank you! Do you know further some books / video's or any material that could help me with this problem?
    Body language and confidence are big, eye contact. Letting them know your engaged with them with small physical hints.

    I kinda keep different events in the back of my mind depending on the girl. Like galleries, live music, sports, food, so say she says something shes interested in can say "Oh really well theres a gallery, nextweek, if you want to check it out." Then its an easy date set in stone. That works for me a ton I'm in NY. But even most towns of some sort events to attend. Also how old are you and what age range are you going for?

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Oh also regarding my first post yesterday, you can also use features alone like your eyes remind me of...because obviously not every girl looks like an actress or singer. Or can pull you remind of this really pretty actress but I cant remember her name.

    Now you said your falling into the friend zone frequently. Are conversations going on for days before your attempting to get together? Like if i get a number out I usually try and set something up with my first text conversation. Text her something funny. Then just try and set something up. When conversations drag on or go for a while they usually just end up dying. Which isnt anyones fault just the nature that people need to get to know eachother better.

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    Default Re: Problems with Attraction Phase

    Quote Originally Posted by kmm179 View Post
    Oh also regarding my first post yesterday, you can also use features alone like your eyes remind me of...because obviously not every girl looks like an actress or singer. Or can pull you remind of this really pretty actress but I cant remember her name.

    Now you said your falling into the friend zone frequently. Are conversations going on for days before your attempting to get together? Like if i get a number out I usually try and set something up with my first text conversation. Text her something funny. Then just try and set something up. When conversations drag on or go for a while they usually just end up dying. Which isnt anyones fault just the nature that people need to get to know eachother better.
    I'm 19 years old and my age range is around my age, what is sometimes difficult I think because some haven't that much experience Anyway I like your tips! They are easy to do and are straight to my sticking points, I will use them! And yes the conversations are going for days, but they it isn't that they end, most of the time I will come in that friend zone (because they tell me who they are dating and stuff). I tried that funny opener already on a girl I have made contact last week.


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