So, I seduce mainly out of ego (which I know, isn't advised, but deal with it). Anyway, my wife got off on challenging me to flirt with women for her enjoyment. I also practiced subtle seduction for a while, but just wouldn't do anything I wouldn't do with my wife around and my wife has been aware of this. I'm good enough where I can straight start dancing a twirling a woman around who is a complete stranger and have her giggling and flirting back and I can seduce with a lot of subtle ques. A big advantage to this sort of no-risk flirtation is that there isn't a goal and any woman that I frequently see usually just more attracted to me over time (although most of that attraction is built over one or two interactions).
Eventually, my wife has discussed threeways as she often watches pornography of women when I'm not around. I had found a possible Asian candidate, but my wife isn't into Asians; she wants a red head, or a blonde "bombshell." Today at the gym, I ran into a redhead. Even though I was breathy and the entire thing felt awkward, I wasn't going to let the nervous part of my subconscious to engineer a brilliant excuse to not try. I asked her some questions and even made a joke about her checking me out and had her giggling and biting her lip briefly. Then I couldn't think of anything to say and she was in the middle of a workout. My worked out mind just didn't have anything to say, and because she was in the middle of a workout, quiet sexual Tension wasn't a strong option (at least that's not what my lightheaded brain could pick up at the time). I just opened up about my intentions and at first she was giggling saying "what?" then it fully processed to her what I was asking and her demeanor changing from flirtatious to weirded out. I'm taking this pretty strong because I'm used to rejecting women and not the other way around. How do you guys deal with major setbacks?
And by recovery, I mean a psychological recovery. I don't really care that much about the woman in question and probably won't run into her again as I workout at odd hours.