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    SleekB is offline PUA in Training
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    Default I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    I have experience that many times now and dont know how to control or change that..
    I see a set of 2-3 girls, i would come to them, "so why 2 girls like you not dancing? your guys didnt show up? "
    them: "no one offered to dance"

    which tells me.. okay she wants to dance. sweet, but now i have to make sure her friend is having a good time so i either throw her to my friend or dance with both and then #-close with the target.
    but sometimes, it doesnt go that well.. i straight up come to a girl and tell her "hey, why arent you dancing?"
    her: "i dunno.. just waiting for a friend"
    me: "wanna get a drink? you could buy me one "
    her: with a wtf face expression "hh no.."
    me: "well how about we make a bet then.. if you win i buy u a drink and if u lose you buy me a drink" (in mind i have the 5 lies games)
    they usually agree but i get lots of IOD or they will turn the back to me which is a shut down.

    some girls dig that when im cocky.. i make her really feel like im the prize and that im such a good looking, charming, and fun guy that she will never find anything like this again.. but some chicks hate it and turn back to their friend with the "girls coding" saying -he's an ass-

    btw. if a girl has a bf.. and she asks me to go out side with her (after we almost made out in the dance floor - almost cuz she stopped me since her bf might see), we sit and talk, she is having a good time.. my arm around her, her bf comes in and she goes Sh1t hes coming watch out..
    do you think i should text her im sorry for going so far with it and it was a d1ck move on my side or pretend like thats awesome and move on with it?

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    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    45 views and not a single comment.. come on guys i need help

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    Salaami Guest

    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    your opening is lacking a few concepts

    1. false time constraint (VERY IMPORTANT because it lowers their Bitch Shield)
    2. i dont know how you come off in these situations but make sure you come off as a guy with a lot of energy who is truly just asking why they arent dancing.

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    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    If your frame is consistant all the way through and you don't use te jerk role to cover something up then roll with it. You have to be true to yourself or a woman will see right through it. As for should you call her?... If she was pulling away when her friend came around she might be trying to hide something. So keep that in mind. If you liked what you saw and enjoyed your time with her I would text her.

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    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    Yeah, false time constraint very important

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    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    Quote Originally Posted by Coyote View Post
    Yeah, false time constraint very important
    I've never thought that it is important (cause im newbie).

    So is it absolute extreme important if I want to success?

    How much better success have if I for example ask to dance and I add false constraint?

  7. #7
    King Inkling Guest

    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    try it n see i guess mate.

    ive never used it so far, as it always seems a bit funny adding it in there. although i fully see how affective it would be. not really cold approached so much yet so,thats why i havnt used it. onwards n upwards!

  8. #8
    Coyote Guest

    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    try it mate
    there's no experience quite like experience

  9. #9
    Heartbreaker Guest

    Default Re: I'm a jerk and turn a lot of sets off :(

    Quote Originally Posted by SleekB View Post
    some girls dig that when im cocky.. i make her really feel like im the prize and that im such a good looking, charming, and fun guy that she will never find anything like this again.. but some chicks hate it and turn back to their friend with the "girls coding" saying -he's an ass-
    This is very interesting, in my opinion this happens for one reason: the girl has a low self esteem, if she trust herself, in her beauty and in her personality she would realize in a second that the cocky stuff is part of the s3xual communication and not the social one. When a guy is cocky and funny he is basicly transmiting that he trust in him self, that he is fun to be, playfull and feel comfortable with his s3xuality, it also transmites that he knows what he wants and his mind is set up. This is like mental Peacock, it's part of the s3x ritual ( a man showing up for a woman) All this communication goes around in an almost inconscient way. When the girl reacts bad to this aproach, either she dont beleive in her self, so she dont want to play a game she will loose, she has problems so she is not in the mood for flirt or the cocky behaviour went to an extreme which is almost stupid. If the girl is not to confident about her self or if you are a realy good looking guy, dont exagerate on the cocky stuff.


    Quote Originally Posted by SleekB View Post
    btw. if a girl has a bf.. and she asks me to go out side with her (after we almost made out in the dance floor - almost cuz she stopped me since her bf might see), we sit and talk, she is having a good time.. my arm around her, her bf comes in and she goes Sh1t hes coming watch out..
    do you think i should text her im sorry for going so far with it and it was a d1ck move on my side or pretend like thats awesome and move on with it?
    this girl definitly want you and dont give a fck about her boyfriend. It will be like taking a candy from a kid.


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