That is the beauty of Kino. It is ALWAYS welcome. Unless a girl is SUPER jumpy and weird, and you will want to pass on her if this is the case anyway. It is human touch. Human connection. Something we ALL crave. Now, on the flip side, nothing is more sacred to a woman than her body: Her physical self. Especially when it comes to a man she does not know, or has not built up a level of comfort and acceptance. Here is where the "Trick" of Kino comes in. You touch innocently on the arm or shoulder, heck even a brief back hand to the tummy. The key is to be casual, not be creepy, and make the touch brief. You touch her for a moment, and remove it. Before she can complain about it. Before it raises a red flag in her head. You are building physical compliance. Once you touch her once, you can do it again, and again. Now if you are talking to her, and you of course are, you have asked her a question. When she answers, you have just gotten VERBAL compliance. She is responding verbally to you. The last piece of the compliance trifecta is Logistical compliance. This can be as easy as putting both hands on her shoulders, and physically moving her a few steps to the left. Say a light is hitting you in the eye, and you need her to move. Or, take her by the hand and lead her somewhere. This after first doing some Kino touch.
Compliance and Consistency go hand in hand.
Physical Kino Touching her
Verbal She is responding to you verbally.
Logistical You have literally moved her in some fashion
Why is any of this important. Because once you have established compliance, it is easier for her to CONTINUE to comply with your requests. And that is what you want. Her complying with your requests.
So what is Consistency? It is a trick. You are going to suggest to her how YOU want HER to be. Tell her, I thought so. You look like a really fun and adventurous person. Are you fun and adventurous? This is pretty innocent. You do this after you have been talking and Kino-ing for a bit. Remember Kino will relax her, and her guard will be down. Then this psychological trick goes to work. Once she has AGREED with you, that she is "Fun and Adventurous", she will try and live up to what she has agreed to. If she is naturally more reserved, she has just agreed to you that she is adventurous. She will try and live up to what she has agreed to.
A girl I helped skating the other night was telling me that she gets a lot of anxiety with things she is not comfortable with. So I was holding her hand constantly as I was helping. She got more unsteady, so I put one arm around her waist. To keep her from falling. Then later, she was texting, I went to talk a bit. I led with a long lingering touch on the upper back. And then turned it into a little rub. A girl who admits to having anxiety just let me, a relative stranger do a long lingering touch. That is because I had already established touch with her, and it not a big deal. She was still unsteady skating, anxiety, but she had no problem with me touching her.
My experience is, Kino really establishes a sense of familiarity and lowered defenses. You gain a nice level of acceptance from her. And once you have that, you can work for more.