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  1. #1
    compgeni Guest

    Default Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    So this girl comes into my work every now and again. Months ago she introduced herself to me while I was working. I did not know what to do so I introduced myself and said have a good day. She came in every now and again after that.

    Eventually I learned and when she came in I said "havn't seen you in a little while, you really should come around more often". So she came in a couple days later, I was busy and asked her "waht's up, blah blah" and ended with "I've got some questions for you next time" So she came in, and I got her number.

    Current:
    I txt her saying, "nice talking to you this is my number" she texts back "me too. I do have a bf but would like to hang out sometime" to which I reply "who said anything about a boyfriend, I promise nothing but stimulating conversation." No contact sense then.

    That was a couple days ago. She is one of the shy types. Do I call her? What the hell do I do/say?

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    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    well first off text her and keep flirting like it doesnt matter and that it didnt phase you a damn bit. haha and then just keep it up, escalate it a little bit
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    Salaami Guest

    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    Her telling you she has a BF in her FIRST TEXT to you means that she really doesnt give a shit and is interested in you, its a bullshit test really... At this point you have no idea if the BF is real, or what type of girl she is (does she give a damn that she has a BF?)...

    Get back into it, flirt, be playful, and like crob said show that you dont give a damn about her "boyfriend."

  4. #4
    compgeni Guest

    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    I thought it might have been a BS test.

    I thought "hmm... maybe she gave me the number just to respect me feelings" after she didn't respond to my "boyfriend, who said anything about boyfriend, I promise good conversation" text. Which I think was a good response.

    It's been almost 4 days so I'm going to call her tonight and say "Hey, what's up? Got some free time this week". Phone game seems weak to me. How do I flirt on the phone? Do I want to tell her a story about my week and then ask her if she has free time or just come out with it?

    It's cool because I went out and about and got a nice sunburn. So it will be a good story

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    Salaami Guest

    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    Tell her you had something happen that reminded you of her, this will spark her interest in what could have happened.

    Tell her you will only tell her what happened if she beats you in a game.

    *Make up a game that you can play with her over the phone, simple is best.*

    EXAMPLE:
    "Okay so first you are going to name a sexual position, then I am, we go back and forth until someone can't name one, there are no repeats, and no using a friend or the internet."

    Depending on how long the game went on you might not have to tell her what even happened (she might forget about it).

    After the all this tell her about something you are doing with friends and invite her. Doing this will make it so she feels less pressure about it being some kind of "date" and will also make it so even if she flakes or something you still can have fun without her.

    Good luck.

  6. #6
    compgeni Guest

    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    OK..

    I just called her and introduced myself. She said she was sitting down to dinner, so I said I'd make it quick. I asked her if there was anything cool on the dinner plate and she said her best friend is a personal trainer and they try to eat more healthy. I teased her for eating junk.

    Then I asked her got some time this week to engage in some witty repartee and she said she would check and call me back tonight or possibly tomorrow.

    I was perfectly calm, spoke slowly and in my powerful voice.

    Analysis Please. I haven't gotten this far in a long time :P.

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    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    lol well dude she can tell you are jumping through her hoops. Whenever she says she has time, say that doesnt work for you. you need to set it up like you are in control. I am hitting on a girl now, i have that vibe like she thinks she is in control of our interaction, you know what. im going to not talk to her unless she text me twice first within two hours and then im going to be quick short and distracted. this keeps her on her toes knowing that she controls a little bit and still needs to win my attention.

    So funny story actually, good example on how to be alpha. Ok well working my game last night and then i had three friends who thought they were good and try to contest me for this girl cause she was the hottest one there. a solid 7.5. so first off, i get to where im going to be dealing poker, and she is a little high and always says hi, but i have always negged her and teased playfully. But today she kept showing so many ioi's i thought i would reward her by being nice for a little bit. She was digging it and asked for a truths. to start her jumping through my hoops i said ok but only if you come give me a hug. when she did i got her thinking sexually by a quick kiss on her neck. it shocked her and just saw it flipped her switch. then she left and came back later and then this is where the contest started.
    she had 2 of my friends all over her nuts, following her, buying her drinks, being complete beta male AFC's. and she likes the attention. But since she sat at my table i could work my game a little and since she was still a little high and starting to get drunk is was very easy to incoperate sexual tension especially since my table helped. the thing that really got her dripping wet was that she was trying to tease about me being really young even though she is only 22. and then after a couple of comments, i got her attention and listened to me cause i had that vibe where i completely control the convo. like a kind of "hey shut up and listen real quick" kind of thing. and then i just said " ok babe i might be young but ill show you things that will make you say i cant be 20." and somehow that just flipped the script and she just got horny as fuck. the entire night i just did me, and talked to her when she earned my attention. the other guys just fell off cause she wanted my attention not theres cause she could have there attention whenever she wanted.

    Best piece of advice is just be alpha, control the interaction and dont seem incredibly interested. Best thing you can do to come back is start talking and give off the vibe or literally tell her that looks are common, what else do you have. it makes them jump through your hoops and it makes them try to earn you attention and attraction.
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  8. #8
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    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    OK, will do. Where can I lean more about this hoop thing?

    I think I see two hoops. She said she was starting dinner and I said I will make it quick. And she said she would call me later and I can OK.

    Do I NOT call her at all and wait until she calls me? Do I text her something interesting that does not really communicate interest but that I have a life after 2-3 days? Do I call her?

    This Hoop Theory with being alpha is interesting because how do you set up a date accounting for scheduling conflicts?

    Perhaps I should have said, No I'll call you later?

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    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    lol yeah best thing you could have done was "ok ill let you go and ill call you later" if she says ok then she saying ok ill jump on the phone when you need me to. the basic idea of hoops is that she is doing what you want so it shows your leading and controlling the interaction
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  10. #10
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    Default Re: Finally got a number! Texted, brought up BF. Do i call? What do I say?

    Compgeni,
    Good job on getting this far, REMEMBER you WORKED and EARNED that number. So next time, keep the interaction solely through text, any form of internet communication is bogus and a stepdown. Like when a girl ask for your Facebook, its a good chance she will use that to disqualify you and label you in the friend zone, which you may want to ask yourself " do you really want to perform talking to this girl on the phone?" not unless you have the voice of Barry White. I would save the energy of verbal game for face to face interactions. So try to redirect it back to text game and plan something Midweek like Coffee, this will set you apart from most guys who try to plan something for the weekend. This will save your wallet.

    I like your intital text message responses by the way, you definitly have it in you. Keep up the light and playfullness.


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