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    Question Need help interpreting!

    I went to a music festival with a girl I've been okay-friends with fr a while, and upon arriving we grabbed some food and sat down to eat before our concert came on. During our conversation (which stayed fairly strong thru the night; no real awkward breaks or pauses) I told her a story that ended with me telling my mom, "no, playing guitar does not get you automatic ass." my lady friend asked me "oh so you don't get it automatically?" I responded saying "well, if j lowered my standards, I probably could, but no way am I doing that." She proceeded to ask me what my standards are, and I told her they include looks but also specific personality aspects (I can't stand a girl who can't make me laugh, for instance). We finished eating, met up with two of her friends and walked around some with them. Those two left to go see their show so I was alone again withthis girl going to our show. As we stood around waiting for the show, we talked and I countered her question asking what her standards were for guys. She listed off intelligence, humor, athleticism, etc. Due to the nature of the festival and people pushing thru crowds, she was standing close in front of me and a little to the side, both facing the stage. While sometimes out of necessity, there was a fairly constant contact of her back on my chest. Then out of nowhere at all, she says to me "maybe you don't have to lower your standards, maybe you just have to be better." I briefly tried to get her to explain herself, but she wouldn't so I let it go after five seconds. She didn't ever really dance or dance with me; I'm betting I enjoyed the concert more than she did. After the show, she took me by the hand to lead me thru crowds to the next stage, and there was a point we were still holding hands without any crowd to navigate. I dropped her off at her house at the end of the night and was given a large hug, and we reaffirmed future plans to have Noodles + Co. together and finish watching a movie.
    This all went down Saturday, I've had no contact with her since on purpose, as I don't know what to do, and I don't wantto act without purpose and understanding of what I'm doing. Can smeone help me decipher what she means or what she was doing and how I should proceed?
    Many thanks in advance, Grant.

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    Default Re: Need help interpreting!

    Ok here us what I think:

    on the first point where she asked you what your standards she was probly looking for sone affermation that she fits those standards. What I would have done is listed off a 3 or 4 things that she has that you like and say after well you have 2 of the 3 so your doing ok with a big smile on your face. It let's her know your into her and what she is about but also leaves room for er to qualify herself and prove she has those traits.

    The second part was a Sh1t Test to see how you would react. She felt she had a lower value in your eyes cause the lack ofthe affermation before so she had to strike back. Unfortunatly you jumped into her hoop and chased her thread. You gave her back what she lost before and lowered your value by showing needyness with your response. Next time give her something cocky funny and roll with it.

    If y'all have plans already made keep them and sta more alpha next time. Text her make her laugh and roll with it. In the words of crob, be fun and be diferent!

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    Thank you so much for the analysis! I couldn't figure out what she meant by "maybe you just need to be better," until you made me realize she was dissing my game (ironically!) to see how I'd react.
    I've been trying to think of a good way i should have reacted to the Sh1t Test. Everyone knows it's way easier to come up with something witty/high value the next day, but I'm still having trouble coming up with a good line to counter that sort of thing, even a few days later! Any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Need help interpreting!

    Honestly at the moment I'm stumped as what to say. Now saying that I'm sure it will hit me when I push the post button.

    If you run game where you neg and use those type of things girls are going to give you shit back. Sometimes your not going to be able to respond so when that happens, give her some credit, I think styles line was simply to say " respect".

    I really do think something cocky funny would work but for some reason I can't think of a one liner tonight

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    In thinking about this, I've considered the idea of coming out big and bold and saying in a playful manner with a smile on my face "Oooh, are you trying to dis my game now?" I think this might shake the foundation of things, possibly rattle her a bit, and show some value that I'm not the least bit afraid to call someone out lightheartedly on something instead of hiding behind Fluff (<<<that's how I am in any interaction, even aside from game).
    However, I can't think of a second half to the statement. I'm assuming a *light* neg would be appropriate. It doesn't have to be a strong one since I just dhv'd with the first half the statement, and I don't need to knock her down at all since her statement wasn't one regarding her value but mine (so my objective is to raise my value back higher than it was before she made the statement! not to bring hers down, neccessarily).
    I just can't think of a good light neg that is relevant to the "maybe you just need to be better" statement!


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