Alright fellas, here's my first post here so please comment below. As I've said on my intro I'm not an expert on certain things related to Pick up, but there are some that I know like the back of my head.
Premise of Value:
Women really aren't goal setters like us guys.
Just like me, i'm sure you guys have an actual day job and wish you could make more money, do some inspiring new thing, or save the world in some way. All of us are goal setters.
When women meet guys who are goal setters, their infrared tracking device turns on. They become locked in and are fascinated by them.
What's really important to women is that they get emotionally taken by the goal setter who's ON THE PROCESS of going after his goals.
Most men think that Value is like providing material things. It's really not. At least not to a woman's eye.
Here are the Types of Value you can provide women:
1. Your Dreams and Aspirations
3. Introduction to other people
4. Man Hormones
Mind you guys, these are NOT demonstrations of value. These, in my terminology at least are called "value bombs." They actually have REAL value in them interpreted by the woman filter.
Okay so how can you use these in conversation:
Let's use number one, your dreams and aspirations - get a piece of paper right now or type on a document... map out or enumerate your dreams and aspirations. You may want to travel to another country and settle there like a "glorified gypsy", play a couple of instruments, learn new languages. Heck maybe one of your dreams is to meet and shake the hand of someone popular who inspires you. (I just did this last month - met the legendary coach of boxing Freddie roach and shook his hand - women loved that I did that).
What's important is that you don't make it UNREALISTIC. We, as pick up guys can have the habit of "mental masturbation." - so you don't want to make it so far off.
I had a friend who was just an up and coming director, and he would dhv by saying his next goal was to win the Cannes Awards. This was very miscalibrated and the women just shrugged it off. FAIL.
If your'e an up and coming whatever, then start mentioning something realistic. In his case, it would be to just get a couple of films out there commended by the _____ Local Film Society... or at least tell a story of how there's this one film director who hates your guts and you'd love to piss him off by winning an award.
I always use this when I talk to women. I like to fascinate them with my ideal lifestyle for the future. I don't get unrealistic towards it either.
Now, here's another thing - what you say literally has to MEAN SOMETHING to her. You have to calibrate between several stories on this one. If your dream isn't on the same language terms forget it. It has to be relatable somehow. Speak in plain terms, no "intelligent" talk.
The tools you need here: Voice inflection, pacing, and practice a good tone of voice. Also, environment matters - you can't say this stuff if both of y'all are in a hurry... or if you're in a loud club. If you are, then suggest a smoke at the patio and THEN do it.
Alright, I've overextended my typing. Again feel free to post your comments below...and please be nice. I promise I'll be nice back
Next Part soon...
TD_Natural from Good Ol Tx