I am new to this, and I would like some feedback on my latest attempt at seducing a co-worker. I learned PUA techniques only from reading on the internet, so I am not an expert. Nevertheless, here we go: she is a nice ~30 year old woman, and I am about 20 years older than her. Well, she has a bf, but always complains about him, so I think she will eventually toast him.
This has been going on for 5 months now. In the beginning, I was able to flirt with her a lot, she would sustain my eye contact, blush, go after me frequently with work excuses, etc. Then, after she talked to me with her legs spread out in my direction, I invited her for a lunch date and she agreed. In this first date, she was very nervous, and appeared to calm down only when we arrived back. Thus we only had a good time and that was it. She agreed to another lunch date, this time she was relaxed and in the end of it I teased her saying it was her turn to pay - which she did. Than I kissed her on the cheek thank you, and she reciprocated. In the end she kissed me again in the cheek. On the third date, I intertwined her fingers in mine, we held hands for a short period,I laid my hand in her leg, I caressed her butt, etc. But did not actually go for "the kiss". Thing is, since she works with me, I was concerned about pushing forward too much and create problems at work. And also because a clear opportunity for a "first kiss" did not seem to arise, and because she failed a kiss test - the hair one. Anyway, I felt bad about it with myself and two days later, I decided to go for it, regardless. When I found her in the hallway, I grabbed her, brought her inside a room in the cafeteria, kind of in a polite but very assertive manner, and when I found her inside, I stared at her and went towards her. However, she mildly resisted and I decided not to pursue it further. Later I read we should not do any sudden movements with girls - I was only trying to go for it - you guys say that when we are in doubt, we should go! Well, I went! That is what confused me. Anyway, I then disappeared for a month. I e-mailed her only once during this period, but she did not reply. When I reappeared, we talked nicely, and I eventually invited her for a fourth date, which she agreed. However, on the last fifteen minutes, as I was talking to her in person, she tried to LJBF with me, which I successfully dodged. Yes, I did not allow her to engage in that nonsense. She then politely flaked on me. At the time, I did not even blink, and thought "her loss" as you guys tell us to think. She was actually puzzled by my lack of protest. But the fact is that, at that moment, nothing would make her go anyway. But, since, I then decided to ignore her for good. Yes, I decided to use the techniques you guys describe as "you must be willing to lose her".
Now, she is starting to come after me in subtle ways. Finding me accidentally, etc.
I am still ignoring her, but would very much like to have a go with this girl.
What do you experienced guys think I could have done better, and what should I do next if she keeps coming to me?
She is kind of conservative, she is a Mormon from Utah - would that be a problem? Any special techniques? What about the boy friend? And what about the age difference?