Ey all, first time posting on here, so excuse me for any ignorance with my terminology/lingo.
I was wondering your opinions on dance floor approaches and recovering from rejection on the floor. I am short(5'8), skinny, and pretty average looking by most standards (not hideous, but definitely someone who needs to work a girl a little before shes interested), so immediate rejection on the dance floor is a pretty common occurrence for me...usually before I even have a chance to say anything to the girl. To make it worse, i'm a pretty lousy dancer...but thats not my main concern, since it generally doesn't even get to that point. I don't let it get to my head because I'm usually just dancing to try to have fun, not to pick up girls (knowing my track record), and I save my game for the bar or elsewhere in the club. But I want to know if theres anything I could do to change my luck on the floor.
Normally I won't go right up and start griding on a girl since I know that creeps them out. I dance a ways back from them, give them a smile, inch in a little, and see if they respond by closing the gap. The usual result is either she immediately relocates, she starts dancing on me for a minute or so and then relocates, or one of her friends will run an annoying cockblock and pull her away.
In my opinion, approaching girls on a dance floor is 100% an appearance thing. Off the floor, I can generally use negs or dhv to bring a hot girl down to my level, and pick her up successfully. Targets are less likely to walk away from a guy approaching them to talk than they are a guy trying to dance with them. But once I'm out there, I just feel like a bug that girls want nothing to do with. Especially at the clubs where girls are in their heels and tower over me..i'm pretty much non-existent to them. It doesn't matter how good my game might be in 1-on-1 conversation...on the floor, I feel like if she doesn't think I'm an immediate candidate for hookup, I will be shot down. It makes the whole club scene not very enjoyable for me.
I don't think my dancing skills have much to do with it either..since I always see taller guys who look like they're barely even moving with 10s griding up on them.
Generally, after i'm rejected on the dance floor, I consider that girl a lost cause and I don't try an approach again off the floor. I don't usually like to waste my time on girls that I was already shot down from.
What are some techniques an average guy can use on the floor to break the appearance barrier? Becoming a better dancer isn't really an option for me, since I'm one of the most uncoordinated dudes I know.
Am I correct to treat these girls as lost coses, or have any of you had any success recovering from a dance-floor failure? Obviously if I am cockblocked, that doesn't necessarily mean the girl I was dancing with is completely uninterested, but it is usually a sign of disinterest if the girl doesn't come back. And I don't really see some line like "hey, call me crazy but it almost seemed like you were avoiding me out there?" going anywhere good.
Or should I just give up on the dance floor altogether?
Thanks for your help fellas!