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    Default Need advice - work pickup

    Hi all,

    I want to approach a girl at my work (office environment). The building is big though, so I sometimes don't run into her for days. I've been introduced to her by a friend of mine and I basically just say hi/good morning to her when I see her. I want to actually have a conversation with her, but she's always with people when I bump into her.

    I know where she sits in the building...therefore , I was thinking about going up to her desk and chatting her up.

    I already have a few things in mind on how to open it up with regards to work related stuff...but I want to end it in one of the following ways:

    1) Would you like to take a walk/break
    2) Do you want to go out for lunch some time today or this week
    3) I have to run but is there any way we can further talk over msn perhaps?

    So I'm asking the PUAs...are the above 3 options not a good idea? Is it too quick to ask these types of questions? Any other options or advice on how I can end a quick convo with her? Is going up to her desk a bad idea?

    Thanks

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    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    the way ive been lately i would go directly to her and ask her to go to lunch with me. Be direct, show confidence and a little cockyness and be sexy try to build some Kino and sexual Tension immediately. Dont be a fucking pussy. Your lack of confidence already and your disposition to trick her with canned lines is not a good way to start.

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    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    Hey,

    Can't believe how long it's been since I posted this. I still haven't grown the balls to approach....

    Two main problems for me:

    1) She's always at her desk and rarely leaves. Is approaching at her desk a bad idea?
    2) The other times, she's ALWAYS with someone else. I'm too nervous, afraid and embarassed to approach with a friend with her. What if her first line is, sorry got a boyfriend...i'll look like an idiot in front of someone else as well. What do you all think??

    I can try to catch her walking in at work in the mornings...that's probably the only time she's alone but she may think I'm like stalking her or something loll..

    What do you think?

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    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    Take a walk/break sounds try hard yet still amaturish in that you're not really commiting to being interested and is isolating her from her desk, which she may not be comftorable with.

    The msn is a little (I dont wanna say childish... and I use msn too but) sounds maybe geekish or... I dunno, to ask a girl for her msn rather than to go for coffee or lunch is kinda a 'mini step' and shows lack of confidence..

    *IF* approaching her at her desk you need to show confidence and maybe a little funny/ character. Definately either ask her to lunch, or to go get coffee RIGHT THEN when you know she has a break/lunch, or one coming up, like say maybe 1130am..(better if you know her actual time and show just a lil early..)

    Saying 'sometime' shows indecisivness and lack of value like you have any time that she's available, even if it's next week. If she can't do it on the day of approach, then say "Thats ok, I'm free tomorrow, see ya at noon?" at this point she will see you're persistant and confident and be clear of your motives and she will either make and excuse to excuse herself (the old, boyfriend line) or the I don't drink coffee/ eat/ hangout with strange men who get girl advice on the internet, and you should have something else ready to counter. make her say no. not in a stalkerish over the top way. here's what she might say:
    her: "I don't drink coffee" you:" I know a cheeky little joint for tea..." (any coffee shop has tea )
    Her: "I have a boyfriend" you "I have a goldfish" her "what" you "oh, I thought we were listing irrelevent things." (credit to the author of that fine line... he's a poster here.. I think I mod but I forget who it was!!! Great line!! )
    her:" I already took my break" you: "Thats ok, tomorrow's better for me too, I actually brought my lunch today but wanted to chat you up."

    If you don't find the guts to approach her as an alpha at work.. and trust me, the stammering timid thing, esp in a work environment is not going to work well!! Then facebook her and come with some strong game. Use the "I didn't think it would be professional approaching you at work," maybe something like.. "myself obviously a rising star in the company, I wouldn't want our relationship to reflect poorly on either of us when i'm CEO/ president," etc. (cocky funny would sound like) "but couldnt help but notice checking me out and wanting to say something, always wondering if I felt the same about you.." or "didn't want to let the statistically improbability of our working i nthe same building out of all the buildings in the world go unrecognised.." etc

    Lotsa ways to do it. Put her on the spot for a date. A mini date. Coffee, lunch. or contact her facebook (you dont have to ask for her info this way...) and you should be able to gather her full name easy enough if you dont have it.

    Another cocky funny I have used is the 'interview'. "I've got a BIG star-role coming up and I'd like to list some of your strong points and qualities that would make me want to pick you.?"
    "uh, a role?-her (she probably gets it, but might want you to spell it out)
    "Yeah like, what makes you a good person?"
    "yada yada"
    "Uh huh, thats good, are you educated? school? have a good job?"
    (now she's really trying, and probably laughing)
    "What kinda food can you cook? like adventure? sports? outdoors?"

    If you're doing this on the spot with someone you don't know I don't let it go on too far. just a few till she gets the point you're interviewing for a GF, and if she is trying to qualify herself say "well, my schedule is kinda tight today (if you're being cocky and things are going well you can say "I've got a lot of interviews.." ) but I'd like to sit down with you real soon and discuss your qualifications over a coffee... in an informal interview setting like, a walk around the lake, over the mountain, down at the museum.."

    This is fun, completely pioneered by me, and pretty decent at getting dates. It's a new take on hammer a girl with 20 questions, because it puts you in the power position and you get to talk about things you find relevant to the 'position' while simultaneously transmitting what you expect.

    Good luck with office girl. Is this in a hospital, per chance?

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    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    wow, thanks a lot for the detailed response! very helpful! I'll think about all the options and fire something soon! thanks a lot

    p.s, not a hospital, telecom company

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    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    Personally im not a big fan of facebook game even though what "Badmedicine" said was pretty epic in itself, i would approach her at her desk, the facebook thing is almost a sure way of just avoiding her, and she'll just become another one of your hot facebook friends. Go up to her and just ask her to lunch, if she says no then atleast you tried and next time you do it you'll be less afraid and it will be more natural to you. A woman can see that if your shy as soon as you approach her, just be confident, walk with purpose, and be spontaneous because if you plan out what your going to say she'll see right through it and will probably tell you in a very nice manner unless shes a bitch that shes busy but maybe next time, and we all no maybe means no. Just remember act fast because your probably not the only guy who thinks attractive.

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    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    A work environment is always a tricky one but I would say choose a time when it's quiet and just go and talk to her at her desk and introduce yourself properly. If she seems friendly then there is no harm asking her out to lunch? Another good way to break the ice is at work events or parties. This would be a more relaxed and informal way of getting to know her better.

    I hope it works out for you!

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    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    duplicate post

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    Pinai Guest

    Default Re: Need advice - work pickup

    If you can figure out, without stalking, where she eats out or hangs out after work, then maybe it's better you approach her there... hopefully, she'd be more relaxed.

    Or try catching her at the elevator when she's about to go home... unless she's in a rush, then she'd also be more open to chat.


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