Well there is something missing here. It has to be looks then. You have to be either good looking and/or tall or have something that would attract them on the physical side. This has be the case correct? There are women that date rich guys but bang good looking men on the side. Its an age old game for them.
Women like these do not hook up with average guys even with great personalities. I know I used to work with women like this in the advertising industry. It just does not happen. Why would they? They have nothing to gain from it.