I got into the game because all through my life, school, sports, partying, basically everything but women came with little to no effort on my part. Now as I have had some success, my problem comes when I try and hit on 9s or 10s. I can pick up a 7 with my eyes closed, basically because my frame goes right into "im the prize", but Ive never slept with anythin over an 8, or really ever had the opportunity to. This is where my dilema begins, I can't seem to bring that kind of girl into my frame. I am well spoken, attractive, well dressed, well groomed, have a great sense of humour but absolutely zero confidence when it comes to beautiful women. I am totally stumped when it comes to them.
Am I not trying as hard as i should because I have consistent sex, maybe.
Am I scared of rejection, probabaly.
Am I overthinking this, more than likely.
This is where I want to interluded into another idea, the idea that routines and NLP and all of that crap is b/s. Sure it can spark some temporary attraction, and wow some girls at a bar, but lets get serious guys, are a few magic tricks really enough to make up for a life time of failure with girls?
Not a chance, what we should be really focusing on is finding out what it is about who we are that turns women off or makes us afraid to talk to them and fix it. If its a lack of confidence then we need to find things we are good at, because its what we excel at that makes us happy in life. In theory If I can pick up a 7 a night with no effort, jsut by being me, it shouldnt be that far of a leap to bring home a 10, right? So whats standing in my way? a lack of confidence. Sure i know my way around the basics of game, but what I have learned about game, is that if your out, having a good time, and not thinking about picking up women, then all of the bullshit about coming in under the radar with stupid openers and routines wouldnt be needed. You could simply use daily observations and funny stories, mixed in with some clever lines or jokes (canned crap can be gold if used sparingly and with great timing).
I guess what im trying to say is that there is no magic formula, no secret thats going to instantly turn you into cassanova. At the end of the day its about being comfortable with who you are or what you have become and not letting fear of failing get in your way. I mean we are all here because we have a history of failing, this shouldnt be new to us. Lets put it behind us and work towards making ourselves better people not just better players.
"confidence is not a guarantee of success, but a pattern of thinking that will improve your likihood of success, a tenacious search for ways to make things work"- Dr John Elliot