So.... Riddle me this..
The basic question
I still have trouble making basic conversation. Yes, not everyone will want to talk to me and that's ok. I can smile and say Hi..etc. Then I go to
How are you?
How long have you been doing XYZ...
Yet, the girl I like comes into my electronics store and I can say "wait", stop her, say "do this" hold out my hand, then "do this" and teach her to salsa and cha cha. Which she enjoyed, sitting there giggling all the way though.
WHY CANT I DO THIS IN CONVERSATION! WITH WORDS! I never have the words, but I MAY have the spirit or attitude or whatever.
Here is a sample convo I had with a girl recently. I do one tease, it's situational, and in context in the convo. I struggle with this!! Why!?
ME "Hi I'm Steve"
HER "I'm Jenny" *shake hand
ME "so your selling your car, what are you going to replace it with"
HER "Oh I'm looking for an AWD car, I go to school up north and it snows"
ME "Oh well, that's Audi or Subaru"
HER "Yeah I want an audi"
ME "Nice classy cars, girls got taste/high matenence" -- My kind of tease
ME "What are you studying"
HER "Nursing at Washington"
ME "Ahh What made you get into nursing"
HER "I don't know"
ME "well, some people want to help others, it's a very secure job.....etc"
HER "Yeah I do like people, and it is secure"
ME "How about travel, been to any foreign countries?"
HER "I'd love to go X, I want to do doctors without borders...."
Another girl awhile back texts me "Oh so well you can call me and give me a hard time" She wants me to call her and tease her. And you know what, I would LOVE to but I have nothing to tease her ON. She hasn't done anything stupid or wrong or anything. Of coerce, I never called her. I moved on to other women.