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    smooveguy89 Guest

    Default being more interesting with women

    I know the biggest thing with attracting women is being interesting, having good conversation and being able to make them laugh but I have problems in all these areas. I rarely have interesting convo and its hard for me to be interesting because I dont know how. I really had to sit down and do a self reflection and I realize that I am kinda of boring largely due to the fact that i didn't get out that much growing up.(I'm 21 now) I always had few friends and didn't get out the way i should of and grew up introverted being the only child in the house. I went on a date tonite and i don't think it went well, she pretty much lead the convo, i gave my two cents and after that it was pretty silent and akward so we eventually left and the whole car ride back to her crib was silent and she just was looking forward legs and arms crossed. i know this must sound retarded but I really have problems interacting and I just need advice on being able to better interact with women and be more interesting because I seriously get depressed off this..i know the chick was digging e but im think she's starting to lose interest...
    Last edited by smooveguy89; 10-16-2010 at 10:30 PM.

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    Default Re: being more interesting with women

    Start doing something interstesing. Everyday find something new you could work on or learn.

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    Default Re: being more interesting with women

    couldnt agree more! Get out and LIVE for the love of GOD!!!

    Only way you become intresting is by interjecting intresting things into your life.

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    Default Re: being more interesting with women

    yeah. you need to make a new frame of a fun LIVING guy. you need to get out and make some crazy stories and memories. by putting yourself into a situation where you need to be extroverted. you will start to incoperate that into your personality and eventually you went start to become more interesting and be able to hold fun conversations. so u need to start going out and cliff diving, getting really wasted and making some crazy memories with friends and strangers and shit like that. just live life and u will start to change
    I live in my reality and you’re a guest

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    Default Re: being more interesting with women

    ill be very specific:

    you said you are boring. then your problem could easily be fixed.

    becoming and interesting person is something that you will like and that will turn you into a better person. What I always suggest is:

    1. Try extreme sports edit: in fact all sports are great, they always tend to get laid a lot. all sports minus the geeky ones like chess.
    2. Get dancing lessons
    3. Get your schedule full of shit to do
    4. minimize video game time/internet time/geeky nerdy shit activities
    5. Go out meet as much people as you can
    6. (ill get torched for this next two but who cares) get a tattoo, not a tribal tattoo like every poser has, get something with a meaning, something that you can relate to and you love.
    7. get pierced, not anything trendy that all the assholes have, something you like
    8. lots of outside your house activities, nature trips and great too because you end up with stories to tell.

    try all of those, try different ways for all of those, PICK THE ONES YOU LIKE BECAUSE ITS YOUR LIFE AND YOU GOTTA BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF and keep going, have fun.

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    Default Re: being more interesting with women

    Besides all the stuff above, your problem probably has to do with how you perceive yourself and how you talk about yourself. Start spending time learning how to create conversation threads and how to talk in ways that really speak to women (using more emotions and descriptions). You can have the most boring life in the world, but if you are excited about what you do and you can tell your story while making it interesting and talk about your future ambitions, you won't have any problems. There are literally hundreds on threads on this forum about these topics.

    I try to take time to find things that are more women friendly to do in my own life because all of my hobbies are pretty manly or non-interesting to women on the surface. I am a programmer professionally. I love first person shooter games. I am an avid gun nut. I am majorly into martial arts. I love to go hiking, fishing, camping, and hunting. I airsoft and paintball. The only thing I do that is remotely "interesting" on the surface for women is that I am an amateur actor, and I have a minor in acting. I therefore am a bit of a film nut and critic.

    How do I make myself seem not boring or weird? Well first, the obvious thing is to do things outside my comfort level to build stories that are more woman friendly on the surface. But there is so much more. Go back and look at the list up above. Each one on it's surface isn't all that interesting to the average woman, but as a list it shows that I am a very unique person who is active, adventurous, full of testosterone, and constantly exploring new things. It shows that I have a wide variety of hobbies and activities and that I am a complex person. These are all very attractive qualities. Furthermore, each of these hobbies has created stories I can tell which are amusing, or value building even if the woman is utterly uninterested in the specific topic. Finally, if you learn to talk in woman speak. You can relate the feelings and emotions of a martial-arts sparring match (for instance), with her story of a rough work week. Not only have you now made her topic interesting, you are showing her you can relate and talking on a much deeper level than the dude who just responds with, "Yeah, my week sucked too."

    For example:
    "Yeah, I totally know what you mean. I love to practice martial arts. Rough weeks like that are kinda like really tough sparring rounds. You don't know what to expect until you get into the ring. That fear can eat you up, unless you swallow the lump in your throat, take a deep breath and just step forward, ready to give it all you got. The best part is that 99% of the time, your fear was completely unfounded. Nothing can compare to that sense of elation you feel when you suddenly feel yourself dominating the opposition and bringing home the victory. I try to just remember that when I start to stress out at work. It really helps."

    One final thing:
    When I went to a bootcamp with AFCAdam, he highly recommended purchasing a subscription to Cosmopolitan. I went ahead and did it. I hate women's fashion (and men's fashion too). I think Cosmo is why 80% of women are so f*cked up. However, Cosmo is like a cheat sheet which I can read once a month in about an hour. It tells me all the latest fashions, celebrity gossip, newest studies on sex and attraction (that are mostly wrong, but it is the crap women are being spoon fed), and gives me tons of quiz questions and such that women would find interesting. It covers all the crap I could care less about, without me having to immerse myself in that type of bullsh1t 24/7. If you find that you, like me, have no desire to immerse yourself in that world, I would highly recommend this approach.
    Last edited by gunsnglory; 10-18-2010 at 09:40 PM.


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