I really hate feeling like a tool, but I just discovered how badly I suck at PU.
(ADMIN - POST YOUR field report HERE VERSUS LINKING OUT)
So, what do I need? Well, I'm looking for constructive criticism. If you read the last post in my field report you'll see that I was able to approach girls but couldn't convert.
Here's what I think. I'm a total AFC (or maybe an rAFC since I don't believe in oneitis and shit). Anyway, I have a highly inflated sense of my ability and I want to get slammed and told EXACTLY what I need to work on. Let me lay it out here...
I've been gaming a girl at work but am afraid to initiate and hold eye contact. I think party of me realizes this will escalate kino and, frankly, I'm afraid of sexual contact...
Tonight I got a HB9 to "dance the dougie" with me but failed to initiate contact. I was afraid to grind/dirty dance without an IOI, but maybe that's an AFC thing?
I also approached a HB8/HB9 who seemed uncomfortable with dancing. I tried to make her comfortable and flirted with her cockblock but something I did/said turned them off and they left with a glare. I don't feel hurt by the rejection, I just can't figure out what I did wrong.
Here was my approach tendency tonight (house party):
1. Comment on something obvious ("why aren't you dancing?")
2. Get them to start talking
3. Suggest a course of action ("teach me how to dougie")
4. Dance with said girl(s)
5. No kino/grinding
6. Girl eventually leaves
Right now I'm chalking my failure up to kino, but I noticed that the guys getting laid (at least at this party) don't really dance, they just talk to the girls. I'm confused. All my life I've been bad at talking, so should I start developing stories and engaging them in conversation? Do I lead verbally or physically?
Guys, ANY help at all would be MUCH appreciated. I'm a total newbie and don't know how to convert to a kiss close, let alone a lay.
I hate admitting my epic failures, but I could really use some feedback, so please, let loose and give it to me straight. Thanks