Re: [Advice needed] Question of values on virginity and casual sex
How old are you and how what types of relationships have you had in the past?
Lose your virginity to a woman whom you care about and whose feelings reciprocate your own.
Society will judge you based on your presentation of yourself and the stories they hear about you. You contorl over half of that equation.
There are almost as many women looking for casual sex as there are men. If you really care about a woman, you will leave her better than you found her. It seems like you are looking for a realtionship, not just casual sex. Typically, you cannot have both. A woman with whom you have had casual sex will not likely be your next serious girlfriend. Conversely, a woman who you wish to have a relationship with is not to be treated the same as one with whom you intend only to have sex with. When a woman associates romantic ideals with a man, there is likely to be a relationship. When a woman associates a man only as a strong, appropriate breeding partner, casual sex can be a reult. It is much more primal, filling a physical need moreso than an emotional one. A woamn seeking a relationship needs a balance of her physical and emotional needs met.
The path to all of this is the same, initially. Basic defense mechanisms are triggered by various stimuli. There are techniques and methods on this site that can get you past these defense mechanisms. There is a pivotal moment where you must decide if you are going to make the relationship serious or just a sexual one. The pivotal point is when you are finished kissing her.
I have failed more than most men have tried.
Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.