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  1. #1
    Strike97 Guest

    Default The Alpha Response

    Hi fellas -

    Just looking for advice on the perfect alpha response... Bit of background: This is a true 9 that I've been dating for 3 months with regular sex. She is one of four women I'm seeing, although she does hold the current No. 1 ranking It appeared as if I had total control of things but as you'll see, apparently not! After she completely disappeared for a weekend, I received this:

    "Sorry I wasn't around this weekend. I was at a friend's wedding with my ex. That's why I have been standoffish. I felt guilty about going to this wedding and continuing to hang out with you. Sorry I didn't tell you about it earlier. He asked me kind of last minute after Halloween and that's why you and I haven't hung out.

    I've enjoyed hanging out with you though. You're a really nice guy. It's complicated with the ex since we never broke up because of how we felt or how we treated each other. I just wanted to be honest with you."

    WOW! I have been picking up women for years and I'm confident in my abilities at the highest level. Of course I'm not always successful, but NEVER ONCE in a long career have I had a woman voluntarily walk away from a sexual relationship with me. NEVER.

    Now the perfect alpha response to this would be to go out and pickup other girls. In fact I'm about to head out and do just that. And I'm sexually involved with three other women, so all told I can't complain.

    In short, it's not the loss of the girl that bothers me, it's the comment. What annoys me most is that for the first time, I was pegged as a beta-male! I was nice-guy'ed! In fact, "you're a really nice guy," is so grating it pains my brain to even hear that sentence out loud. SO... I'd like to write back something, even if it's as short and simple as, "Are you kidding? OR "Your loss. Have a nice life." Any thoughts?

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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    "No big deal, it's good to know you're having fun."

    "Good for you and I'm glad to hear you're doing well."

    "Apology accepted"
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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    Nik -

    Thanks for the response. As for your second quote - Don't you reckon I ought to respond with a comment indicating I'm having fun as well? Whatever the case, I will likely wait several days before responding. Thanks for the feedback.


    Quote Originally Posted by nik View Post
    "No big deal, it's good to know you're having fun."

    "Good for you and I'm glad to hear you're doing well."

    "Apology accepted"

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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    I wouldnt wait to respond. If it was a normal conversation would you wait that long? Waiting just lets her know it shook you up. Instead answer asap THEN when she responds dont say anything back. freeze her out for a few days... she will think she made her choice and it didnt affect you and that you are off with other girls now(which you are) She will wonder why you are so different because most guys just get angry and probably end up wanting you back. After a few days you can re open her if you would like to

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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    Quote Originally Posted by Strike97 View Post
    Nik -

    Thanks for the response. As for your second quote - (*)Don't you reckon I ought to respond with a comment indicating I'm having fun as well? Whatever the case, I will likely wait several days before responding. Thanks for the feedback.
    I posted three responses. If you'd like to use them, try to make them your own. I don't know you, this woman, or the relationship you two share. Only you know what conveys your thoughts and encourages your intentions.

    Use them verbatim, take the most beneficial parts from what I posted, and/or add your own words and make your own response.

    and...
    *I'd reckon you're right

    Don't wait. She'll presume it really bothered you or, even worse, that you had to go to another source to figure out how you wanted to respond.

    You're welcome!
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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    This doesn’t sound so much like you’re the beta male. Just that you were a place holder till she could get back with her ex. She even admitted they never broke up. Don’t fret it, move on.

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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    i had a text like this before i used "glad to see things are working out for you and ill see you around" and didnt respone to her next texts messages then about a week later she called me to bitch me out becouse of the comment I'll see you around" how it drove her nuts idk why but i have always used that ending if thing went sour it always seem to get a response and they seem to always come back so take its for what its worth bro and good luck

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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    Nik - Thanks for the response. I especially liked "apology accepted." As you can see below, it seemed to work well. Since you've all been quite helpful, I figured I'd post how things transpired (You've seen her initial email above). So here was my response - She didn't seem too happy, and was probably surprised by how casually I took it. Thoughts?

    Me:
    That’s cool. Thanks for being honest, apology accepted. We aren’t exclusive or anything so you don’t owe me an explanation for the weekend, or for going on a date, but yeah I’ve really enjoyed hanging out so far and I’m glad you have too.

    Going out tomorrow night w/a big crowd to celebrate you should come. I’ll actually be up near your way at 7 – Probably driving straight from work, so you can meet me there or I can swing by your place and pick you up. Your call!

    Her:
    Yeah I don't know why we didn't talk about being exclusive the other week, it had been a couple months. I guess you're not really looking for anything with me. I'm not comfortable having sex w/someone after a while if we don't establish something even just being exclusive. Honestly, I don't see this going anywhere. The ex wasn't just a date, I still have feelings for him.

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    Default Re: The Alpha Response

    Quote Originally Posted by tcomea2 View Post
    This doesn’t sound so much like you’re the beta male. Just that you were a place holder till she could get back with her ex. She even admitted they never broke up. Don’t fret it, move on.
    There you have it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by nik View Post
    There you have it.
    Well, not necessarily. Truth is if your game is tight, no girl will go running back to her ex under any circumstances. They'll keep coming back to you for more sex. Obviously, my game wasn't as tight as it should have been. That's my fault.

    I really don't care if she had a bf the whole time or not. My simple question is, is there a way for me to keep her in the rotation and continue to bang her on a consistent basis?


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