I remember when I was 14 or 15, I could chat with girls for hours and keep them engaged. but now, I suck at chatting with them online to attract them. following chat is from a dating site, where I started to talking to a girl, but it didn't really go anywhere.... please help
me: Are you the type of person who can accept a sincere compliment?
me: you have a beautiful smile
me: your turn :P
her: thank you
her: happen to see you live in boston and im not looking to do an "online boyfriend"
me: same here, I really don't want an "online gf" but I am planning to move back to houston in december
me: would you like to get to know me online until then?
her: are you from houston?
me: yes originally I am, I went to boston for college
her: ohh ok
her: thats pretty cool, what part of houston are you from?
me: I live in the north side, by the spring area
me: how about you?
me: hmm... do you go to katy mall a lot??
me: *** Kissing ***
me: i did not mean to do that lol
her: lol oh wow...and no i dont that mall sucks
me: haha i went there about 5 yrs ago, it was ok...
me: i noticed from your profile
me: that you're quite shy as well
her: lol yeah i can be pretty shy mainly around alot of ppl i dont know
me: same here... this is why I'm trying to get to know people online before I meet them
me: so let me ask you something
me: If I were to see you on the street or the library or somewhere else
me: how would I need to approach you?
her: that ALL depends on where and what im doing
me: ok let's say you're at the library surfing the web and I notice you
me: and I really want to talk to you
her: ask about whatever it is im looking at or if you need help with the web ask for that
me: wouldn't that be weird though??
her: no, im pretty use to guys hitting on me and hate it when the first words out of their mouth is how pretty i look, im more than just looks
me: thats true... but what if a guy just came to you and said "you seem interesting, I just wanted to introduce myself to you"
me: do you think a direct approach like this is better
me: or something more indirect
her: why are you asking all this?
me: well, honestly, I am very very shy around women... and I wanted a female opinion on this
me: I don't always want to rely on the internet to get to know someone
me: and you seem like down to earth, so I thought, I'd ask you
her: my opininon is to start smell talk about something you know shes into or likes
me: oh ok , I'll try that
me: so tell me more about yourself
her: what would you like to know?
me: I noticed, you like photography... are you taking classes for that or just learning it independently
her: no classes yet but soon
me: i have always wanted to learn more about that, being an engineer we learned the technicalities of it
me: but it must be amazing to actually have a career in that field
her: it will be yes, i love it and learning about it so its gonna be pretty awesome
me: so was it always your dream to become a photographer or did you change along the way as you grew older
her: its pretty much been something i wanted to do
me: well that's nice, I'm very happy for you!
me: I gtg meet friends for dinner, but you seem really cool and I would love to get to know you some more
her: okay bye have fun