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    abcone23 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Why am I such a bore?!!

    I remember when I was 14 or 15, I could chat with girls for hours and keep them engaged. but now, I suck at chatting with them online to attract them. following chat is from a dating site, where I started to talking to a girl, but it didn't really go anywhere.... please help

    me: Are you the type of person who can accept a sincere compliment?
    her: like?
    me: you have a beautiful smile
    me: your turn :P
    her: thank you
    her: happen to see you live in boston and im not looking to do an "online boyfriend"
    me: same here, I really don't want an "online gf" but I am planning to move back to houston in december
    me: would you like to get to know me online until then?
    her: sure
    her: are you from houston?
    me: yes originally I am, I went to boston for college
    her: ohh ok
    her: thats pretty cool, what part of houston are you from?
    me: I live in the north side, by the spring area
    me: how about you?
    her: katy
    me: hmm... do you go to katy mall a lot??
    me: *** Kissing ***
    me: oops
    me: i did not mean to do that lol
    her: lol oh wow...and no i dont that mall sucks
    me: haha i went there about 5 yrs ago, it was ok...
    me: i noticed from your profile
    me: that you're quite shy as well
    her: lol yeah i can be pretty shy mainly around alot of ppl i dont know
    me: same here... this is why I'm trying to get to know people online before I meet them
    me: so let me ask you something
    her: okay
    me: If I were to see you on the street or the library or somewhere else
    me: how would I need to approach you?
    her: that ALL depends on where and what im doing
    me: ok let's say you're at the library surfing the web and I notice you
    me: and I really want to talk to you
    her: ask about whatever it is im looking at or if you need help with the web ask for that
    me: lol
    me: wouldn't that be weird though??
    her: no, im pretty use to guys hitting on me and hate it when the first words out of their mouth is how pretty i look, im more than just looks
    me: thats true... but what if a guy just came to you and said "you seem interesting, I just wanted to introduce myself to you"
    me: do you think a direct approach like this is better
    me: or something more indirect
    her: why are you asking all this?
    me: well, honestly, I am very very shy around women... and I wanted a female opinion on this
    me: I don't always want to rely on the internet to get to know someone
    me: and you seem like down to earth, so I thought, I'd ask you
    her: my opininon is to start smell talk about something you know shes into or likes
    me: oh ok , I'll try that
    me: so tell me more about yourself
    her: what would you like to know?
    me: I noticed, you like photography... are you taking classes for that or just learning it independently
    her: no classes yet but soon
    me: i have always wanted to learn more about that, being an engineer we learned the technicalities of it
    me: but it must be amazing to actually have a career in that field
    her: it will be yes, i love it and learning about it so its gonna be pretty awesome
    me: so was it always your dream to become a photographer or did you change along the way as you grew older
    her: its pretty much been something i wanted to do
    me: well that's nice, I'm very happy for you!
    me: I gtg meet friends for dinner, but you seem really cool and I would love to get to know you some more
    her: okay bye have fun
    me: bye

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    Default Re: Why am I such a bore?!!

    Look for things that don't matter, but tell you about her.

    -What's your favorite color?
    -If you could be any animal, what would it be, and why?
    -If you get lost in an unknown city, do you stop and try to figure out where you are or do you keep driving until you find something familiar?*
    -What's your dream car?
    -If you could have an exotic pet, what would you get? Compare to the animal they want to be.
    -If I gave you $100 and told you you have to spend it on all on an item or items, what would you buy? What if I said you had to spend it on an experience? What about if I gave you $1,000?

    I can talk to anyone for at least 30 minutes based on the first two questions. The key is to follow-up on the responses.

    *From here, I might go into a funny story about getting lost and driving around on a sidewalk in the center of an outdoor mall.

    Some questions that may be good, but need to be used after gaining some initial intel are:
    -If you had a baby, what would you name it? Girl name and boy name.
    -Have you ever been to a drag show? What did you think of it/where did you go? OR Would you be interested in going to one? You can follow that up with: I have a friend who does a killer Celine Dion show. Maybe, if you don't turn out ot be a creeper, I'll let you go with me sometime.
    -What's the most embarassing thing that has happened to you that was your fault? and not your fault?
    -If you had to move, where would you go, and why?
    I have failed more than most men have tried.

    Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.


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