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    Sihiyung is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Question new, having trouble getting started, Help please

    Hey, ive been learning about pua's and all the techniques and such, but i just cant get over aa, my AA is dreadfully bad, and even if i approach, i get nervous and cant think of what to say, everytime i try to think of a premade line, i tell myself its stupid and that it probably wont get me anywhere.

    last night, i was at a party, im new to my area, and a good amount of the people at the party had seen me, but didnt know me, and vice versa. but in my head i was telling myself i wanted to talk to girls, but i just couldnt make myself, or if i did, i spoke to low to be heard. this made me discouraged, and i sorta just walked around, talked to a couple people i knew, and did that for the rest of the night. i was pure AFC, and people noticed, at some point some guy said as i walked by "dude, that guy has been walking around by himself the whole night", it made me feel like a failure, and i am going to change that, i have to. so please help me in any way possible, a wide variety of techniques to get over AA, and have good openers/conversation transitions.

    i want to be able to approach during the day too though, because of the fact that i dont go to all too many parties since i moved here. and i see alot more girls during the day, i know i fear rejection, but i just dont know how to overcome that. so all the help would be greatly appreciated

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    Raven Guest

    Default Re: new, having trouble getting started, Help please

    Have you checked out unbreakable by Social Man? I just got it, but it has already helped me immensely with aa. The other thing you need to remember is confidence breeds competence, Mystery's greatest saying of all time. I personally am moving away from canned openers, I like situational openers, and direct openers. It really depends on your style though. You need to learn some canned openers that fit your personality, or you need to learn how to do situational and direct openers. You also need to be open to the idea of bombing real bad and getting rejected hardcore once or twice in order to calibrate your interactions.

    Don't feel bad about that party. I have had epic fails far worse than that, and they are learning moments. From that party you learned that you have a social anxiety, and now that you have pinpointed the problem, you can work to address it.

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    Default Re: new, having trouble getting started, Help please

    I know how you feel man. I get Approach Anxiety all the time. I remember reading an article by Lance Mason about approaching one girl every day for 30 days. This way we build up a habit and it becomes second nature.

    It's worked for other guys, so it might work for me, or for you. Let me know if you want to try it. We can keep track and help each other out.

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    Raven Guest

    Default Re: new, having trouble getting started, Help please

    I just think about how awesome it would be to have an HB in my life, and how lame it is not having an HB in my life, and poof, I am motivated enough to approach.

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    Sihiyung is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: new, having trouble getting started, Help please

    thank you for the valuable infromation Raven. it is greatly appreciated. i will work on some openers and quick thinking to work out some good situational openers.

    jeremya23, that sounds like a good idea, we can both have our project to approach atleast 2 girls a day. i feel like it will be harder, but at the same time it will make us more comfortable doing it


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