Wanna know the ONE tool I use all the time to flirt and create sexual Tension?
It's the 'text messaging' function on my cell phone.
Now unless you've lived in a cave for the last couple of years, you're probably familiar with text messages. These are the short, "email like" messages you can send to people with your cell phone.
They're widely used because they're incredibly useful for asking a quick question or sending a brief message.
What's interesting is women LOVE text messaging! If you've ever watched a girl in a social setting, you'll notice how much many text messages she sends. In fact, I think this form of technology is rapidly replacing phone conversations.
So when you text message a girl the RIGHT way, you can quickly build enough attraction that you won't have to do much IN-PERSON game when you see her next.
BUT there's one major problem here...
Most guys complete screw-up what they write on their text messages. They text the way we men typically have conversations. When talking to one another, we like to think logically and make plans. This means their texts are usually straight to the point.
Women on the other hand, view text messaging as a way to get to know one another. They use it to describe their problems and stay in touch with people in their lives.
It's important to remember this rule when texting!
The best way to use text messaging is to build SEXUAL TENSION. Before each text, I think carefully about how this message will advance the flirting and sexual tension I've created with this particular girl.
Whether I'm teasing her, sending "comfort" messages or making plans, my texts are specifically designed to create a STRONG emotion in the girl who receives them!
And from the results I've seen in my dating life, I can honestly say there is a lot benefits you can gain behind sending a well-written text message. With that being said, I'm actually really surprised at the LACK of information about sending text messages to women.
While I KNOW many guys use them, not much has been written on the subject! So for the last 5 months, I've had to create my own system for text messaging.
So let's cover the basics of text messaging. Over the last five months, I've received a number of emails from guys who are interested in improving their "text game". Primarily I get TWO main questions:
1) What's the purpose behind text messaging?
2) Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
With these two questions in mind, I want to dive in and further discuss this topic:
#1- What is the purpose for text messaging?
Bottom line- Text messaging is all about creating and maintaining sexual tension!
When you first get a number, it's easy to have attraction. But this is quickly lost in the time between getting her digits and making that first phone call. With texting, you can bridge the 'time-gap' and keep the attraction alive.
While I recommend that texting should NEVER replace a phone call, sending a few can be an excellent way to get a woman to THINK ABOUT YOU throughout her day.
And when you go to call her, she'll immediately recognize the good feelings and emotions that you've already given her. This makes it easy to get her on the phone and set up a 2nd meeting (ie: First Date)
I personally use my text messages to STAND OUT from the other guys who might be calling this girl.
So I focus on TWO things when I text a girl:
1) Teasing her in a familiar manner to create the sense that I already "know" her
2) Using call back humor to an event/conversation that happened when I met her
Generally I'll start a texting conversation by referencing a specific thing that happened in our first conversation. (This is how to use the call-back humor that I just mentioned)
For instance, a few weeks back I met an attractive girl from Eastern Europe. As soon as she opened her mouth, I realized that she sounded EXACTLY like the guy from the Borat movie.
And once I confirmed that she saw the movie and "got the joke", I teased her mercilessly about sounding like Borat. Naturally the first message started with a reference to Borat.
This leads to the next question that I want to cover (This is where I provide the 12 proven messages that I promised at the start of this article)
#2- Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages you've sent?
As I mentioned before, I typically use 'call-back humor' with my texts. This makes it hard to give "cookie-cutter" examples. However, there are times when I didn't get an opportunity to use call-back humor.
So even if I really didn't get a chance to know a girl better, I'll still use a few messages that have gotten great results in the past.
Anyway, here are 12 messages I've personally used:
==> After meeting a girl- (Use 2-3 hours after the first meeting to establish initial contact)
1) "I know you're thinking about me. So I thought I would say hi!"
2) "My ears are tingling...stop talking about me!"
3) "Wow...that's weird. I think I just saw your twin. Are you stalking me?"
==> Lifestyle updates- (Use to keep contact ever other day & demonstrate that you're a fun/interesting person )
4) "Dude...my cat just did the craziest thing..."
5) "I just saw an army of Oompa Loompas. I think short people are breeding too fast
6) "85 degrees out. Time to grab a towel and head to the beach. Too bad you have to work!!!"
==> Building Sexual Tension- (Use after you've spoken on the phone and set up a 2nd meeting)
7) "Miss me yet?"
8) "Tomorrow should be awesome. Just try not to embarrass me in front of my friends"
9) "Looking forward to seeing you. You're like the bratty little sister I've always wanted.
==> After the 2nd meeting- (Use to reinforce the good time she had)
10) "Had an AWESOME time. Hugs and kisses!"
11) "Fun times! I guess it's safe to introduce you to
12) "Had a great time! Even if you're a little dorky..."
Sexual tension can be quickly gained and quickly LOST.
That's why it's important to keep up the attraction at ALL points in the relationships you have with women. In other words, NEVER allow the lines of communication to go slack.
That's why I personally recommend that you use the text tips that I provided in this article and stay in contact with ALL the women you're dating (or hope to date).