Hey guys. This has been driving me crazy for awhile, I hope you can help me. I posted this on another forum and got a bit of advice, but I'd like more info if possible. I've been in the game for a bit now, and I've run into a major sticking point.
I was never considered a good looking guy before I got into the game. I didn't really know how to accentuate the positive in my features, but I did win the genetic lottery a bit with my face shape. After finally getting a flattering haircut and learning how to dress fashionably, I all of a sudden have girls coming out of nowhere at bars, clubs and parties telling me I'm "gorgeous" or "really cute" or "handsome" or even in one case "beautiful." (I know right? I don't understand chicks either). Most would consider this a good thing, but it's presented me with an interesting problem. I have a few other friends who didn't get as lucky in the looks deparment, but they have also been in the game for longer than I have, and we're all pretty much running the same game. Standard Cocky/Funny, along with bantering, storytelling and all that good stuff. Now, we all know that looks really have nothing to do with the game, right? The problem I've been running into is that all the standard game that works for my friends doesn't work for me because of this. I wondered for awhile if I was just doing it wrong, until I talked to my friend James' girlfriend and got some feedback.
She talked about when we first met. During that time we were all running game on her to pump her buying temperature and then letting James swing in to isolate for Comfort Building. She said during that time, (when I was running push/pull and cocky/funny), I came off as a tool. In her own words she thought that I was "This ultra good-looking guy who was all cocky and a player and probably trying to get in my pants." She went on to pretty much describe how James and my other friend Jason's game works so well (in non game terms, of course). For example how Jason is good at making himself the prize, or how James is really good at being charming and bantering. She also reiterated to me that I was probably the best looking guy in our group, but she mentioned that certain things I do are "cheesy." When I asked her for examples, she listed off pretty much every neg, disqualifier, and line I have ever run since she's known me.
Another thing that comes to mind is that every time I start running a false disqualifier, my target will get either an offended or rejected look on her face and usually bail on me in set. My cocky funny usually doesn't go over very well either. Usually girls will roll their eyes or call me a jerk.
I've gotten good responses using cold reading routines and almost all of my openers go well, but as soon as I get to the teasing/disqualification phase, I get blown out. If I skip it entirely, the set goes nowhere and peters out.
Despite all this, I have been kiss closing and number closing a lot, but mostly on girls that open me or that I just caveman on the dance floor. Usually pretty hot girls, but I'm afraid to go further with them because I don't really know how to game them. Like I said, my push/pull never goes well, because I when I push them away, the set dies, and if I don't play any push/pull at all, the set dies. What works for all the other PUA's in my group is not working for me.
My question to you guys is this: I have been told many times by many different people that I'm pretty physically attractive. How should I change my game because of this. How does being a good looking guy affect how you play the game. Specifically, how can I use it to my advantage, and what things should I eliminate from/add to the standard game because of it? At the other forum, I was told to tone down the cocky/funny and negs, but that's pretty much the bulk of Attraction and I'm worried if I eliminate that I'll get friendzoned for not being enough of a challenge. Any help at all is appreciated. Thank you.