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  1. #1
    ilhan Guest

    Question Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    I've got an HB7 (might be 6.5 but she is very young to/for me), on Facebook. She accepted to date with me. (Nowadays I'm not at home, anyway. and she lives near my home. also she was easy, probably because she is not that much attractive and I was direct)
    Is it a good idea to date with her, in order to advertise myself among her friends? (close or distant friends, doesn't matter)
    She is a bit cute but not that attractive.
    (Note: I'm not known among the girls, and I don't have social proof)
    I want to date with her with purpose to advertise myself to other girls, and also I don't want to date with her because I don't want to be seen as low standard guy. What should I do?

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    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    well its up to you. if you end it well then u did accomplish advertising among your friends, her friends and friends that u guys make. and actually u might look low standards to most guys and a couple girls, if you date a girl that isnt a cute girls find it attractive. i think it has something to do with dating them rather than going to a girl hotter like themselves. but for some reason it helps. i would suggest dating her maybe for a little bit and then moving on to better things. just end it right, stay friends with her and what do u know. u have a fuck buddy/ botty call u can hit up. haha i vote go for it
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    Raven Guest

    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    I'm almost always in agreement with Crob, and I love all he says and he is far wiser than I with all of this, but I would say it is cruel to take advantage of a girl to get with her friends. It's just deceitful to take advantage of a girl like that, that you are not attracted to. Imagine if some guy did that to your younger sister - if you were me, you would be thinking of a place to hide his body. Plus, this is all rather misogynistic and motivated by sexual desire rather than a genuine interest in the girl and her friends as human beings.

    There is no reason to use her to advertise yourself. There is an infinite plethora of ways to come across women which does not involve taking advantage of an unattractive one. There are many groups of women, and social proof isn't always conjured by literally knowing someone. By acting like a social man would act, girl's sense you are social and have friends and such. There are so many solid ways to meet girls, why ever go a seedy route? Is that the way of a superior man, or an alpha male?
    Last edited by Raven; 01-11-2011 at 01:06 PM.

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    Raven Guest

    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    Also, how old are you and how old is she? Just curious.

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    ilhan Guest

    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    Quote Originally Posted by Raven View Post
    Also, how old are you and how old is she? Just curious.
    She is 18, I'm 24.

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    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    i was informing him and in a way he could do it without taking advantage of her. i mean yes right now she isnt all that amazing and they dont plan on staying together but most relationships dont workout and he finds her attractive but apparently doesnt want to date her cause he is feeling that he is settling for less than he can get. so maybe by dating her he will come more mature, learn more about pick up and relationships, advertise himself as a guy that can date a girl with less than perfect looks and tons of others. so i gave advice that in the end would be a helpful life lesson to him. :P haha its like that jedi mind trick advanced shit haha. really i feel like if u dont want to the date girl then dont. if u do then have fun and if it doesnt work out then so be it.
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  7. #7
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    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    Seems like you left out one important piece of information - do you think you're going to have a good time with her? (And by that I don't just mean sex) If she's a little under your usual standards, but hot enough to still have a certain amount of physical attraction, and she's cool, then go for it. I agree with Raven though - if it's purely to use her as a pawn later then you shouldn't date her. (A) It's just wrong - Raven summed up the reasons why. (B) You run a far greater risk of alienating her friends because your behaviors will eventually become congruent with your attraction - meaning you'll end up being a dick.

    As to the age difference - at 24 I thought I was so much older and more mature than 18 year olds. Now at 34, I date them regularly.

  8. #8
    culturedpearls Guest

    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    If she's the only girl that ever paid attention to you or responded well to your advances, then yeah... why not date her once at least? Practice makes perfect and you could end up surprised.

    But if all you see in her is a chance to get it on with her girl friends, if you're lucky, then don't date her but befriend her. Find the fastest way into the friend zone, don't flirt with her, bore her to tears with your problems and start telling her how good a friend you think she's becoming.

  9. #9
    Raven Guest

    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    Yeah, age hardly matters, as long as she's legal. I like mature women who know what they want ad don't play games, so almost all the women I date are older, but that's because there aren't many mature younger girls. I'm happier with a mature, established 25 or even older woman who has a few years on me but is still really hot and intelligent. An 18 year old girl isn't bad though. Younger women tend to be better if you are not planing on settling down anytime soon, since many want to earn their degrees and whatnot. Basically, don't consider her too young, judge her on maturity and personality, as long as she's of age.

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    defiance Guest

    Default Re: Advertising yourself to others by dating with a girl?

    Age means nothing!


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