In this type of situation, I find it best to be trivialize the matter and exit gracefully.
I would act if I was surprised and say something like "somebody had a bad day, I hope you have a good night".
Easy man, the moment the girl tells you this you just turn around to your friend, take a buck from your pocket and say out loud "your right, she was having pms" and walk away with a huge smirk
Okay I haven't been on this forum since it first started... Glad to see it has progressed well while I was away for ...months, maybe a year or more...
With that note, I'm back for a little (starting my own coaching program is well...note easy) well anyways
This is my input on your situation...
...AND I SUGGEST EVERYONE LISTEN UP...
If you ever approach, and you immediately get turned down the way you did, you did something wrong. It isn't her fault, the way she responded doesn't make her a bitch, and it doesn't make her a slut, or less attractive (i'll explain) or anything else like that.
I play around with a persons buttons. (literally when I talk to people I adjust them and what not (it's Kino ...and it's 100% natural/not thinking about it)...with that, I also play with a persons buttons without really touching them, but by the way I speak or say things to them...MESS AROUND WITH THEM...
She responded in a rude way, because you, and the guy you saw on that video approached someone in a way, that...many people have approached before and thus she wants nothing to do with you since the last 20 times an approach like that didn't work. or...she acted like that, because you went just in, no hello, or talked to quick, or too slow, said something she's protective over, commented on how good xyz looks...(never do that)...
There is something within a girl that makes them act x or y towards different situations...IT IS YOUR JOB, AS THE GUY who approached to decrease her (Bitch Shield level), maybe she was testing you, or the guy on the video, maybe you made it too obvious you were trying to pick her up...no matter what you come up with as to why she was a "bitch" ITS YOUR FAULT.
THE GUYS FAULT. A girl or women or lady or female or whatever you want to call them (bitch) all HAVE a "shield" and you are supposed to take that shield, and break it....we can't really help on how you messed up when approaching......(HO W ABOUT YOU POST us what you said/did)? With it I can give a clear reason as to why it failed and help you with it...as my explanations without some more information seem = STUPID. Don't make sense/garbage....
Hehe I know: )
With that note....EVERYONE IN THIS THREAD...suggested that you should have said X Y AND Z...........????
WHY? AND YOU KNOW WHAT? You yourself even wanted a CLEAR CUT ANSWER as to how to respond to this....You said you froze or something like that?
You see, the answer people gave you is the answer they (NO pun intended, just trying to help the guy) A. had already come up with it, ages ago or B. just came up with it at their computer when replying to your post...
What they all don't do is tell you how you should come up with your own thing to say, or do.
You see, you must use what you know and adapt to a situation. Because every situation is DIFFERENT...
It is at times best to just have a way to respond to x and that's it. But what I see, is the girl testing you...testing you on whether or not you are confident enough, or strong enough, or MAN enough for her. i have it done to me AT LEAST ONCE every month, where they reply in such a manner you wish you never even approached.
The ways the other guys here told you to respond are fine I guess...but then...here is what I saw in common, most of them make you attack the way she acted...
"I had balls to"
"surprised to meet somebody so rude"
"BUT, calling them a bitch. Is that a good idea? I can just see this turning into a sh1tfight "...yes it's not a good idea...you basically bomb your chances with the girl...
"somebody had a bad day"
ALMOST every reply I had, doesn't help them get the girl...Isn't this a PICKUP ARTIST FORUM??? All replies I heard, insult them in one way or another...the context it's done in is not going to help you get that girl.
You see you approached because she was attractive to you. Then you get advice to BASH the entire attempt, so that is what you do the next time someone acts like this towards you.
This being a PUA Forum...I'm going to tell you how to save your attempt to pick them up...
Remember that it was you that initiated the conversation...and it was you that made her reply the way she did in this situation...
Whatever you do, do not reply with an insult.
Whatever you do, be the last person to have the word.
Whatever you do, don't raise your voice.
Whatever you do, don't stand far away.
Don't look anywhere else but into her eyes.
When replying act like you are interested as to why she responded like that.
WHATEVER HAPPENS, make her laugh somewhere along the lines where you reply back.
WHATEVER YOU DO, don't back up.
Before you reply, you take a second or 2 to think about what you are going to say...and then
She says: "Just stop, you're embarrassing yourself, I actually feel sorry for you"
I stand where I am.
I do not lean back or forward, I don't raise my voice, I stare into her eyes"
(you heard her name somewhere...doesn't matter)
I reply "Wait...Janett, Ow my god(raise voice-step forward once), is that you? You still have that cute attitude of yours you did when we were 5. It's Lagron. I can't believe you don't remember me. haha (you smile/laugh/touch her on shoulder)...you don't remember me do you? Remember when we were younger you and I used to ahh I don't think I should say anything in front of everyone here...ow well, I'll say it anyways...remember when we used to make out under the extra table in the closet in our class?" ........
Right now she'll say...she doesn't know you and all that bull ...and you say..."Ah it's okay, its okay, I know we agreed, that if the other did what just happened now, we would deny it, make believe what I just said is a lie, OKAY (You smile/grin). You know what Jannette, (touch on Both Shoulders/hold on to them)...I think we really have to talk about whats going on right now give me your number and I'll call you back...you then take out a piece of paper and she rights her number) as she does so...don't say a word, don't worry, I won't tell your mother about us." .................... .
You take the number....and "I have to go, I have other people to meet, I can't beleive how sweat you turned out, poor thing you don't really member me hheha(smile).
........YOU CAN...leave if she is stumped...and call her tomorrow for cofee to talk about what just happened, or......
If she follows you, after all of this, and questions you, (BECAUSE SHE REALLY DOESN'T REMEMBER YOU....BECAUSE YOU MADE IT ALL UP).....she asks...okay where am I from, what school did we go to...who was our teacher...OR ANY OTHER sh1tTY questions...You hold onto her shoulder, and "One second let me think."
"Ahh... um....gosh...." (You say it out loud for people to hear)..."WOW, I think I just made a big mistake...you're Jannette (insert random last name here)...
she says" NO...I'm not...blah blah blahh... my name is X)"
You say..."Okay we have to start over, I can't believe I made such a huge mistake."
Then take your hand out, as if you want to shake hands and say "Hello (Insert her name here) I'm the guy you feel sorry for that's embarrassing himself."
(if she doesn't give you her phone number...you go to...the ....
(You hold onto her shoulder, and "One second let me think."
"Ahh... um....gosh...." (You say it out loud for people to hear)..."WOW, I think I just made a big mistake...you're Jannette (insert random last name here)......and that's where you take off from, according to what I wrote above.
That right there is a reply. You didn't insult her...and you still got her number (which was the goal to approaching her in the first place)...
Now you are already "Part of the club" with her...and you can go around talking and doing whatever you like, with her and her group of friends...You totally DISMANTLED HER BITCH SHIELD. YOU LEFT HER SPEECHLESS.
That reply I just gave you, is VERY similar to what I DO...when people act like a MAJOR "BITCH" when approaching them...That right there I charge $ 250.00 for.
That you just received for free.
(ONLY WAY I SUGGEST to change what I said/reply...after a girl acts "unacceptable" is....by the end...
"Then take your hand out, as if you want to shake hands and say "Hello (Insert her name here) I'm the guy...comment she made about you."
THIS RIGHT HERE is 100% WORKING. You screw around with her head long enough for her shield to completely disappear...you touch her, which increases sexual tension...you look into her eyes...you prove you're a strong man...you're confident, you prove you're the man she's going to want to ....have some fun with tomorrow night.
THIS IS PICKUP. IT IS AN ART of attracting a female quick enough to get them with you. At least, that's my goal. And well....
THE REPLIES I read here...are really...umm How should I say it...AGAINST THE GOAL, of PICKING UP THE CHICK.
DO NOT ACCEPT failure. Accept the fact that there is a way to combat everything you are facing.
FROM LAGRON, The Artist. (PLEASE give me credit on my methods.)
Artist of what? hehe...you can be the judge of that.
(IF I HELPED...(I know I did) please give me some reputation...(glad they finally added that to the forums(wasn't here when the forums first started).
Last edited by lagron; 02-22-2011 at 01:36 PM.
First u should not react, and keep this in mind:
- Maintaining the state
- The negative feedback does not fit on u.
- U don’t care about others
Some like? “For real? U perceive me like that? U are fucking terror!!!”
Say it always with a good vibe and don’t be ironic.
After if she keeps it on negative background is up to u to try to keep the positivity and suck her on or EJECT.