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Thread: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

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    kzuu Guest

    Exclamation How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    I was watching that PUA show and in one of the episodes some guy was approaching a girl, just trying to pick her up, and she said:

    "Just stop, you're embarrassing yourself, I actually feel sorry for you"

    This was in front of the group and completely dem0ralized the guy. It occurred to me that I would probably struggle in that situation too, so I'm just curious, how do you respond to someone who just gets very hostile?

    Would it be best to walk away? What if you're with, say, 3 people and there's 7 of them, you'd look like a fool to walk away would you? And if you insult her back, wouldn't it just turn into an argument?

    So suppose a girl said the above to you, how would you respond???

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    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    i would say, "really, i think it took a hell of alot of balls to come and talk to you!, not too mention, your not worth my time anyway if you treat people like that!" then close it with maybe a "thank you for being so honest, truthfully im looking for people i like and you made my night soo much easier!!"

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    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    jbardu. i totally agree. amazing idea. i would have been like "haha not bad. i thought it tooks some guts to come over and talk to you. but thanks. u being honest show that some girls are just bitches. well thanks for talking anyways. girls from san diego are hotter anyways. have a good day". when girls are bitches im a dick. haha thats the way the world works sometimes.
    I live in my reality and you’re a guest

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    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    When a girl acts like this I will her I'm surprised to meet somebody so rude and anti-social here, and I give her friends the "why do you hang out with her" look, then walk away.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    Quote Originally Posted by crobinson1 View Post
    jbardu. i totally agree. amazing idea. i would have been like "haha not bad. i thought it tooks some guts to come over and talk to you. but thanks. u being honest show that some girls are just bitches. well thanks for talking anyways. girls from san diego are hotter anyways. have a good day". when girls are bitches im a d1ck. haha thats the way the world works sometimes.
    I like the jist crobby.
    BUT, calling them a bitch. Is that a good idea? I can just see this turning into a shitfight

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    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    My first thought (assuming she's hot) - "There's nothing embarrassing about it. You looked like you might be someone that I could enjoy a conversation with -- that's obviously not the case. I'm really not sure why you got so offended that someone would want to get to know you, but I sincerely hope your day gets better." (smile, and leave).

    Reasoning - insulting back makes you look bitter. If you approach and are then regardless of how hot they are or how much better you can pull, a rejection is a rejection, they happen and there's no reason to be pissed about it. Obviously if she's shooting someone down that hard, she's dealing with some issues and needs to take it out on someone. With my response, she'll do one of three things: continue to sulk and still think I'm a loser, remember that I was a nice guy after her bitchy mood passes (thereby not ruining me for her friends), or possibly even stop me and apologize and explain how her day is bad.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    sporty i like what your saying, but i feel im already above her at that point and couldnt care less about her day getting better. i mean yea she could just be having a bad day, but no1 has the right to treat people like that, and when someone does they need to be put in their place. and im not saying get into a tiff or a arguement, but in a very pointed way make sure she knows that shes lower than you now and she would have to work to make it up to you.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    Quote Originally Posted by jbardu87 View Post
    sporty i like what your saying, but i feel im already above her at that point and couldnt care less about her day getting better. i mean yea she could just be having a bad day, but no1 has the right to treat people like that, and when someone does they need to be put in their place. and im not saying get into a tiff or a arguement, but in a very pointed way make sure she knows that shes lower than you now and she would have to work to make it up to you.
    Very mature attitude man. My memory is evading me, but I believe it was Mystery that said if you get into a fight, HAVE THE LAST WORD, then walk away. Even if you just got crushed, she will feel as though you won the argument.

    so its like "yeah I had balls to approach you, but now that I met you, your not someone I could be attracted too. Have a good night". It doesn't matter what you say, as long as you say it, and walk away with the last word.

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    theworstthatcanhappen Guest

    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    Kzuu,

    I am with sporty on this one. As hard as it may be, you need to take the high road (even if she doesn’t deserve it). I would laugh like that was the funniest thing I had heard all day and say something like sporty said or “I am never embarrassed about wanting to get to know someone who seemed (past tense) interesting. I guess you are having a bad day. Fine. I don’t need to get to know you or people who treat strangers that way. Good evening.” Then walk away.

    You will never win if you try to get into a pissing match and if it gets loud, every women in there will automatically think you deserve it and you might as well go somewhere else. But be assured some will overhear how you handled this (like her hot friends) like a gentleman and it will remind them of what class looks like. In truth, you should look at it as a moment to shine to everyone else and not as an insult. Try to look at it positively. Chances are one of her friends will come over and thank you for diffusing the situation so skillfully. Remember in practice, this will very rarely happen that someone will get that rude so fast. Be prepared and you won’t get frazzled.

    Good luck

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    culturedpearls Guest

    Default Re: How do you deal with someone who gets Hostile???

    I think with Sporty's suggestion though, you also increase the chances of any of her friends, or the people who hear, of seeking you out to say they're on your team. Taking the high road is not always easy though.

    Then again, before you get to this point, I think you also better learn to notice IODs and either change strategies or back off with grace. I mean, sure, not every girl you approach will be friendly or nice but you also have to make sure you're not being annoying.

    Or scary, hehe.


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