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    kzuu Guest

    Exclamation How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    How come this happens??? Can anyone recommend some material or exercises on being able to recover when your mind goes blank?

    I sometimes 'visualize' the situation and can easily cruise along my routine. This doesn't just happen to me with pickup, it happens with public speaking too. I can go over my speech easily beforehand but once I'm in that position, I just stammer and sometimes there's an awkward silence. Why does this happen? Is it just anxiety? And how can you overcome it? Is it practice, or is there something I'm doing wrong (like thinking too far ahead)?

    Also one more question, a friend of a friend of mine was once told by a psychologist (not sure if it's true) that it's possible to "exercise certain parts of the brain" that can "help with spontaneity", anyone know if this is true?

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    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    breathe a sniff, then continue the rest of the inhale (through your nose). When your inhale is done immediately breathe out (through your nose). Pause. Repeat.

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    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    I'm not sure if that would help in that situation but thanks.

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    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    just ask questions about what she said until you get back on your game
    "Give her the gift of missing you" david d

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    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    Kzuu,

    There is no easy answer here. Experience is the best teacher. If you don’t have experience, you need to be prepared. By being prepared I mean write an index card with 3 or 4 openings, routines or topics of interest and know them cold. When you really panic and go blank, take a deep breath and bring up anything interesting she is wearing or crack a joke about the surroundings (think people of walmart and hope one walks by as it will at least get you smiling). The truth is relax, smile and be genuine. What you say matters much less than how you present it. If you really panic and freak out, try honesty. It may not work with a real hottie, but smiling and saying “My mind went blank because I am nervous because I really want to get to know you.” If she is at all interested, she will help you get through it and appreciate the honesty (plus you come off as obviously not a player). You never know what any women may like. This anxiety goes away as you gain experience.

    Good luck

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    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    I have found that being excited to meet women and relaxed always kept me comfortable enough to clearly think of what to say. One key thing to remember is that pauses in a conversation are actually normal, it's a normal human experience. You have to just act cool with the fact that there's silence, like it's normal, no problem, but don't linger too long. Often times the girl will start the convo back up, especially if you are wearing something interesting. Secondly, speak slowly and clearly, and you will "last longer" in convo, and sound more confident. Thirdly, remember these 3 things: Flirt, be funny, and bait. Baiting is saying things which cause a girl to ask questions of you. An example would be to say her blue drink reminds you of the deep blue water you saw during a cruise in Alaska - that her drink looks just like Alaskan ocean water. Lol. Yeah that's a real random example.

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    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    Your mind may be going blank because you're trying and thinking too hard. Once you've made your initial approach, be in the moment and concentrate on what the girl is saying or ask questions about what's happening.

    Also, practice makes perfect. You won't master the art of thinking on your feet if you don't provide yourself opportunities to do so. You may fail half the time but you also learn.

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    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    Kzuu,

    This is a difficult situation to be in but at the same time relatively simple to change.
    If you have already got a point where you are getting plenty in ioi's then you are in a position to get contact details, meaning there are no awkward silences and you leave on a high and positive in her mind rather than someone who can't keep a conversation.

    However if you are mid-routine, then change t around, say to her something like 'Hey why am i doing all the talking? now its your turn...' something to keep the conversation flowing but also turning to her and showing an interest.

    If all else fails excuse yourself it doesn't mean its over completely, just for now, you can always reopen later.
    Best of Luck
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    culturedpearls Guest

    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    Plus girls like to talk about themselves so be interested and just ask them about what they like doing. Just make sure the questions are not answerable by just yes or no or that they will allow you to follow up with more questions.

    If you still can't think of something, neg her a little or question her taste/opinion. That will get her talking more and give you more time. Haha.

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    Pinai Guest

    Default Re: How do you think ON THE SPOT when your mind goes blank?

    Quote Originally Posted by kzuu View Post
    Also one more question, a friend of a friend of mine was once told by a psychologist (not sure if it's true) that it's possible to "exercise certain parts of the brain" that can "help with spontaneity", anyone know if this is true?
    Probably true. If you can train your reflexes (jugglers) or your response ability (doctors in emergencies), why not spontaneity? And I think all you have to do is just practice on people. Get anybody and everybody conversing with you, and you should have minimal problems when talking to a pretty girl you want


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