I'm glad to hear everyone is having success with the Vin Dicarlo pandora's box system, that's encouraging! I'm still trying to get the hang of it. Vin could make a supplement teaching the approach for when you can't tell the type just by looking with conversation examples for determining her type as quickly as possible.
Right now I have a specific question about the system...
I just broke up with a NJR (iNvestor-Justifier-Realist, as in the code defined in the system). At least I think she is... She's definitely an iNvestor-- short string of very long term boyfriends, not much dating in between, about equal in number of guy/girl friends, lots investing characteristics like buying me stuff and separation pain. Not so sure about the J and R, she definitely was totally fine with sex when we first met, and is pretty kinky, making me think she's a Justifier, but no tattoos and a very small number of prior partners, and all the risky stuff she talks about she never does, and ultimately the sex seems pretty special to her, making her seem kinda Denier. As for the Realist, well I initially thought she was a an Idealist because of her totally impractical artistic career that she was completely dedicated to, and long string of unambitious side jobs. However, over the last couple years I've discovered a lot of of Realist tendencies, such as she's kinda the responsible caretaker in her family, and the worthless father figure growing up. Now she wants to give up her artistic career to do something dangerous but that would pay much better.
What do you guys think? Is she NJR? if not, what is she?
And lastly, does this change my game plan for getting her back? I have been following the NoContact rules for getting the ex back, and I've followed them pretty well. The first rule is do not contact her for four weeks. I'm three weeks in. However, I read iNvestors are best dealt with by keeping you in her mind, otherwise she'll be looking for the next investment. In light of this new info, should I drop her a line to keep in touch? Or is NoContact more important to maintain until she contacts me or the four weeks is up?