I know that when I am trying to flirt with a girl, she is saying more by how she is holding herself and the way she moves her body than anything coming out of her mouth.
It is has helped my game A TON by learning some basic female body language and what they mean. Think about it as cracking “the code” and being able to get inside her head a little. Who doesn’t want that?
Every time I am out in the field, I notice girls doing these sorts of things and signaling by their body language that they are interested in me. NICE!
Signal #1 – Eye contact
This is particularly important if you are standing across a room from a girl and your eyes meet. This situation is great because it really takes the hard work out of approaching her and is an easy way to begin flirting. If your eyes meet three or more times, her signal is: COME OVER HERE! Like we said, this is an easy invitation to go over and start flirting with her.
Also, if you are in the middle of flirting with someone, take notice of how she looks at you. If there is longer than normal eye contact or she is looking down a lot at your mouth while you are talking, this shows intense physical attraction. However, if she is constantly looking away or avoiding eye contact all together, take the hint. She isn’t interested. You better say something funny to get her interested or move on.
Signal #2 – Her distance
If you are flirting with a girl and you find her getting closer and closer to you as the conversation progresses, this is an indication that she has allowed you to enter a for personal, physical position in her “personal zone”. Take this as an invitation from her to intensify flirting and begin to use more physical contact. Use your hand to brush her hair away or reach for the small of her back. Read this as a signal to make things a little more heated. However, if she is slowly inching away from you, this is a sign of disinterest. Move on.
If she does get closer to you, open up your stance a little bit. Think of it as clearing a runway for her to land in. Make it as easy for her as possible to get really close to you.
Signal #3 – Her head position in relation to the rest of her body
If her head is turned toward you, but her body isn’t, then this is a sign that she is not entirely interested in what she is doing. But, if she makes the physical effort to position her head and body so they both face you, then this is a great sign that she is interested in pursuing things further. This is especially important when approaching a woman at a bar. After you approach, take notice of how she positions her head and body, especially if they are both facing you. If they are, you’re in.
Signal #4 – Slightly mimicking the way you move
Psychologists call this “postural echo”. It means when you do something, she does almost the same thing. If you start to lean, she starts to lean. If you pick up your drink, she picks up her drink. This is a subconscious action that shows “affinity”, or attraction, to you. They usually don’t even know they are doing it, but this female body language means they are interested and want to continue the interaction.
Signal #5 – Straight posture with a slight arc to the back
Notice how she is standing, is she standing tall and even leaning back a little bit? She is subconsciously, or sometimes consciously, trying to artificially enhance the size of her breasts in your presence to make you more attracted to her. Cleary, men are attracted to certain things on women, included large breasts. Women know this and will try whatever they can to make these “assets” enhance the situation.
But, if the girl is slouched over, constantly fixing her shirt to cover any exposure, then she is not interested and wants to keep you from looking. Move on. Bad female body language is still a signal you must recognize.
Signal #6 – Constantly crossing and re-crossing the legs
Again, this is another subconscious action women do to draw attention to an attractive part of their body: their legs. Notice if she is crossing, then re-crossing, then re-crossing again in front of you in instances where you are sitting together. It is pretty hard not to look when she is constantly crossing her legs. She wants you to look. Again, this shows she is interested in your opinion about her appearance and physical attraction.
Signal #7 – She uses a lot of hand gestures while speaking
This is an attempt to keep you more interested in what she is saying, thus, showing you she WANTS YOU to be interested in what she is saying. The more she uses her hands to express what she is saying, the more she cares what you think. This is a good thing to notice when flirting with women.
Signal #8 – She is nodding while you are speaking
The simple gesture of attraction, her nodding and agreeing with what you are saying, says a lot. It shows she is engaged in the interaction and wants you to continue. It also shows that she is genuinely interested in what is happening; that she is having fun flirting with you.
Signal #9 – Playing with her drink, napkin , purse, hair, etc.
This is a general sign of being nervous. When someone is nervous, it is a subconscious reaction to find something else to take their mind off being nervous. Is she always playing with her hair? This tells you that she is slightly nervous in your presence, and generally, nervous in a very good way. She is impressed and attracted to you. This is one of the MOST IMPORTANT female body language signals that you can pick up on. Knowing that she is slightly nervous in your presence means you can continue to tease her a little and be even more playful. Her being nervous is a sign that she is attracted to you, so have fun with it!
Signal #10 – Constantly biting or licking her lips
This is a no brainer. The mouth is the gateway to sexual attraction. If she is smiling at you while biting her lower lip, or while talking she is always licking her lips, she is trying to draw your attention to her mouth. This is a signal that she is sexually attracted to you. This is one of the best female body language signals to discover. It means she is more than just attracted to you; she is extremely attracted to you.
Signal #11 – Her head is tilted while flirting
This is a playful gesture that signals she is having fun with you. If she answers your questions with a little giggle and a head tilt, then it means she feels an attraction. This signal is about her wanting to come off as someone fun and playful, ready to have a good time. She wants you to think she is “cute” by doing this.
Use these to your advantage. Like I said, it is like "cracking the code" when you know what they are thinking by how they are acting. Game on!