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    Guys, I have been struggling with an issue for the past few years, and I really need some opinions and advice on this.

    This is my 3rd year in college. I attended one university for a year, and then xfer to another for a year, and finally came back to the first one. Due to some personal issues, I hardly made any friends in the past 2 years. I was shy, addicted to video games, social idiot, had depression, just all kinds of problems. Now this year, I decided to make big changes to my life and commit to success. So far, I ve been making progress. I feel more comfortable talking to ppl, women esp.

    Long story short, the situation is, I am a junior in college, with no friends on campus, and I want to befriends with alot of ppl, esp women. Problems are:, no social circle, junior year in college (hard to make friends?).

    I have no problem meeting / approaching, but I need to work on my talking / flirting. The biggest concern I have right now is this: I meet a girl, got to know her, and she sees that I have no friends and no social circle, and I am afraid that all my efforts are in vain.

    I live in the Midwest btw, ppl here are bit closed minded compared with elsewhere.

    so how do I solve these problems / concerns quickly?

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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    I'd say, look up some group activities, sports, or clubs that you could be keen to take an interest in - these should hopefully allow you to open people much easier as you'll both be sharing a common interest and hopefully allow you to start building a social circle.

    know all about the closed mindedness - i'm based in the UK. Just be fun and enjoy yourself, and they'll warm to you
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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    Tried that already,but they seem to already have a circle going and never really invite me to events

    Like my roomate, he knows my situation but he never initiates anything to hang out with his friends

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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    Probably a silly question but Have you tried being he instigator and inviting them out?
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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    Dude... ask around about the parties, you have to get yourself in before getting accepted in .....if that makes sense. in campus your probably know as that quiet dude...quiet dudes dont get laid in college
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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    Quote Originally Posted by viruscast View Post
    Dude... ask around about the parties, you have to get yourself in before getting accepted in .....if that makes sense. in campus your probably know as that quiet dude...quiet dudes dont get laid in college

    situation is: I small talk to some guys, they say they ll text me about parties, annnnnd of course nothing.

    "yea for sure man, I ll text you . I ll hit you up"

    ---> nothing.

    And it's hard to organize my own events, the dorm I am living in is freaking tiny, no space to put a TV or futon, really frustrating.

    I got access to alcohol and transportation, but really there is nothing to do around STL.

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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    Have you checked out Mark Redman's conquer your campus program?

    Conquer Your Campus

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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    Quote Originally Posted by Bill Preston View Post
    Have you checked out Mark Redman's conquer your campus program?

    Conquer Your Campus
    yes, I finished the ebook.

    really, it's all about improving urself, building a social circle, and know what ur looking for.

    right now, that's what I am trying to do, building a social circle. i ve joined a service frat, tried to meet ppl, and get their numbers as much as possible while be cool at the same time, but I just never seem to be get response back.

    I am self improving as well, been doing work outs, and making strong eye contact, just standing out in a non wierd way.

    idk, it might just be my school tho. Or it's probably my appearance, I am Chinese-American, 5'9'', very good looking with a fantastic smile, but it just seem ppl don't dig asians here.

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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    Quote Originally Posted by Shepherd1989 View Post
    ...it's probably my appearance, I am Chinese-American, 5'9'', very good looking with a fantastic smile, but it just seem ppl don't dig asians here.
    Sounds like a pretty limiting belief that you need to get rid of. I have plenty of Asian friends in NY who can pull girls like crazy.

    Check this out:

    => The Power Of Being Asian <=

    It's called "The Power of Being Asian" by my friend David Tian.

    Give it a look.

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    Remember - I am bald, and while it is something that I can can not change, it would be easy to have used it as a limiting belief... but instead I made the best of it (shave, wear nice clothes and learn the skills to be a very social person). I would say it has NO impact on my game, because I don't let it.

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    Default Re: College, social problem, and girls

    i know where you're coming from. one thing i've subconsciously known that was really affirmed through this forum was confidence is key. you gotta f-ing own who you are. be certain of what you're in to and what you're like. you have to have an interesting in something specific, i'd find that club that you have a genuine interest in and are good at. this way, you're not there just to hook up with people, but people will notice your passion, and people like other people with passions. i feel like you're trying too hard to get friends. when you're at a club event just be cool and do something that will get you noticed in a positive way. if you just try to be fun and bring fun to where you are, then people will want to hang out with you. what may seem awkward or kind of weird to you, especially if you're shy, will look normal to other people.


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