The title of this thread should have been "I'm sure this was an ioi... how should I have responded?"
This girl I work with is an HB6.
She had just thoroughly cleaned the dish sinks, and put fresh water in them.
More dishes were soon created and I went to do them:
Her: "You better not get my fresh dishwater dirty!"
Me: "Oh yea? or you'll do what?"
Her: *pauses to think about it for a few seconds*
"...or I might have to kiss you"
My first impulse was to walk over and say "You might have to anyway" and kiss her.
But I fought that impulse for several reasons: 1) She's not 18 quite yet... but very soon 2) I was at work, I didn't want to risk my job 3) she either is still in, or just got out of a relationship, and I was getting the impression they had been together for a while.
Me: *not expecting that at all, and taking a solid ten seconds to fight off above impulse, and come up with a response*
"Haha I better not do that then."
LAME. I meant to emphasize the word "that" more to be more playfully joking, but I was taken a little aback and I'm not sure it came across that way.
I've grown accustomed to not having women flirt with me. But lately I've been taking the advice in alot of the thing's I've been reading and trying to reframe my conversations in a way that allows me to be the dominant one. I've grown not to expect women to flirt with me like that... I was actually kinda shocked...
I think it's also because I'm putting alot more effort into appearing happy and trying to be more sociable in general than I have been.
It elicited no response, but she has been generally more smiley with me lately (even after the comment that day).
What would have been the best way to respond to this situation?
Also more of a generic forum question: I just found out in another post that this forum is run by a guy named Bill who sells a product.
Is this more of a support forum for those products?
Am I encouraged to still post here, not having invested in Bill's product yet?
If that's the case could anyone PM me if there's a more appropriate place that is product neutral to go to for the type of thing I'm seeking council on here?