I'm assuming everyone has met someone before, took time to get to know them (without making it into a system), and became really good friends. You do it so well that you don't have to think about it. Why then should picking up women be soooo hard???
What I'm going to tell you might go against what you've heard from a lot of people. But basically, before you start to worry about getting in bed with a chick or impressing her (you should never try to impress a woman), you should be her BEST FRIEND!!
Yea I said it. You should be her really good friend. You should be the person who she tells EVERYTHING to. Even things she wouldn't tell her other friends. That alone makes her trust you more than anyone else (no brainer there).
How do you do that??
It's very easy. All you need......is her phone number.
Now I've heard some funny things on the internet before, but one of the funniest things you'll hear is some guru's who say that you should not waste any of your time talking to a woman on the phone.
I've never heard such idiocy in my life. Think back to the times when you and your closest friends would spend HOURS on the phone talking about who knows what. Either way, the bond you both shared and that good feeling you have after a great, long conversation feels awesome!!
A woman only hears your voice on the phone. Let's forget the fact that you can turn her on a lot just by slowing down your words and adopting a very sexy tonality. Especially making everything sound like sex. Although that's advanced hehe. She can only use her imagination to see what you are saying. You want a woman to imagine good things about you.
But back to the subject!! Think about how lethal getting a woman on the phone with you is. Don't even think about meeting up. You can spend the week just talking to her. Now, let me raise a few points of concern. For a lot of people, especially women, talking on the phone is very nerve wracking and they initially get nervous. Some women just don't even like to talk on the phone period....UNTIL they get comfortable with you.
That's it?? Yup. If you can establish from the get go that you are fun to talk to over the phone then you don't have to worry about it.
Also, you need to be talking to her to genuinely get to know her. Not some BS convo like "soo....how was your day....." where you could really care less and are just asking her so you can segue into asking her to meet up with you. Why not take advantage of the fact that said woman has live on this earth for so many years. Let's say she is 25. That means she has 25 years of lifetime experiences that she can share with you. Do you know how many experiences and stories that is? That's why you are only fooling yourself when you say you have nothing to talk to a woman or anyone about.
Basically what you want to do is get a woman to open up about herself to you over the phone. Get her to tell you what her family is like. Especially her dad so you can find out how you should be like to her. You'll find that a woman who has had no attention from her father will be more of an attention whore so you can be the father figure in her life and put her in check when she needs to be. A woman who has had a good father will tell you about him and that is who you want to emulate.
You want her to tell you her whole life story over the phone. That will make you so special in her eyes because you will truly know her. Not only that, but you can then leverage that because now you know what makes her tick and what makes her feel whatever emotions you want her to feel. Once you have her mind, you have her body (lets just hope you have good intentions with it and not just to break her heart).
Women LOVE to talk. It is their drug. Just to be able to talk about anything and relate to it is what they are experts at and love to do. So talk to women over the phone.
You don't have to call her everyday. You can even find out about her in person when you meet up. However, talking over the phone grows a special kind of bond that when you take to each other in person just grows that new found familiarity.
Also, she can't be the only one blabbing. You have to tell her about you too. In fact, the more you tell her about you, the more you can just sit back and let her talk away. Just be a good listener and show her you do care about what she says and thinks. That's what a woman tries to tell you anyway when she talks to you. She tries to tell you how it is she thinks about certain people, situations, and beliefs. You are there to reaffirm her beliefs and push her to achieve her goals. That's what building relationships are all about.
Hope that helps everyone!!