I sort of stumbled on here about 8 or 9 months ago now after going through a devastating break up with a long term girlfriend. I see its a reason most people start gaming, more i believe to come to terms with how a girl they were so in love with suddenly farkin hates their guts.
It has, however, been a rewarding if not highly frustrating 8 months. Before my girlfriend I rarely got girls, Id never really gone out my comfort zone in any social situations and tbh i had a phobia of crowds. ... Sound Familiar?!!...I thought i'd come on here and impart my favourite things, and in my opinion the most important things about game.
If you get these basics then youre doing it, the gimmicks dont last because thats what they are, gimmicks to get you started. Questions like 'what do i do in this situation', 'how do i talk to this certain girl' drive me CRAZY. My mate always says to me 'right give me an opener'.
The number one most important thing in the entire world, be it picking up women, getting a job or just generally winning at life. You could be the smartest, funniest guy but if nobody ever sees that well youre just the same old shrinking violet in the corner.
Go into a club, the first thing i notice is the sheer number of unconfident men. eyeing up girls and generally looking like theyre going to wet themselves. Then youll see a few brave twats, and i mean farking pricks, but THEYRE the ones talking to girls because theyre confident! I mean WTF, theyre almost always idiots, cheaters, unfriendly but they still constantly get girls you want. My friend who i introduced to game, hes a complete tosser most of the time but he opens a hell of a lot of women and, well, he PULLS a hell of a lot of women. Good luck to him.
Confidence leads to: Good posture, a slower speech, a direct gaze when in conversation.
2. A Happy Aura
Oh my god i cannot tell you how important this is. To be as mystery calls it 'the flame'.
If youre in such a good mood at any time, it SHOWS. Coming out with happy phrases, saying how much you love the atmosphere tonight.
A funny thing happened to me, from about november to february i was on the streak of a lifetime. Pulled at least 1 girl every time i went out. I was HAPPY, life was good, everything was going my way and i'd say the first few i pulled were 4's or 5's, going slowly up to 7's and 8's
Then suddenly I had a massive peice of work to do, i spent 3 weeks in a computer room for at least 12 hours a day. Not only that, i missed a few gym sessions and i also bumped into my ex a few times (she flat out ignores me, its like someone stamping on my chest, shes also most probably going out with a guy who looks like half his face has collapsed.).
I struggled opening girls after that, theyd just look so uninterested that it was impossible to step it up. Flinching when i keno'd, walking away, not even telling me their name. Funnily enough i came home to see a girl who wanted to fark me, texted her a bit then suddenly no replies or nothing. Going from 'yea come meet me tomorrow x' to nothing. All because i wasnt the Happy person she'd met i'd expect.
Ive fixed my attitude again now by the way, but my GOD it was an eye opener.
Happiness leads to: Smile, attitude, increase in time people want to spend with you.
This ones pretty basic. You fixate on one girl, you lose her.
I was so needy to the girl of my dreams *POW* I lost her. There is NO WAY back from this!!! (Well there is if youre very lucky and the rots not set it yet)
Focusing on one girl is awful, get with anyone you can.
DONT PUT p*ssy ON A PEDESTAL, you wanna shag? Trust me, they know you want a farking shag if youre thinking it!
Leads to. believable negs, willingness to walk away, confidence.
Join a gym, stop eating crisps, read up about nutrition. Start doing a hobby.
Ive lost a staggering 3 and a half stone in these 8 months. Ive got (not massive) muscles. Girls think im reasonably attractive now. Half the farking mission done for you tbh.
5. Last but not least by any means.
STOP farkING OVERTHINKING THINGS!
Heres a pic, it wasnt for this post it was for another one. Makes me laugh i had a HB9 girlfriend on the pic on the right.
I was on holiday with the parents over christmas on the pic on the left, lost another stone since then. The only point of this pic is.... Hmmm what one do girls respond better to in a club. The one who kickboxes and runs and goes gym and eats well on the left or the fat fark?
Good luck losers