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    Element is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Foolproof Comfort?

    The girl I am going to describe is the same one in the Bitch Shields post if any of you have read it. Basically I disarmed the Bitch Shield, and shot it straight to h3ll. I was sitting outside of a classroom a few days ago, with one of her friends, when my "target" and one of her other friends come walking by. The target then tries to start conversation with me, but I blow her off (I had no idea what I was thinking). After about 5 minutes she tries to start conversation again, and this time I was a little more receptive. I was situated in a 3 "man" set (all girls), and was concentrating my attention on the other girls as opposed to my "target".

    I held conversation relatively well, and made them laugh a lot. I had a "Dane Cook" Mindset, in the sense where I tried to emulate his comedy style. I hinted sexual themes, while using humor in an attempt to build attraction (On a side note, laughing is directly related to attraction...right? Anyways I digress). After a while, her friend dragged me into the classroom for something, and as I was walking in the classroom I heard my target shout at me to "be careful", and "don't let that teacher anywhere near your no-no areas" (if any of you are wondering, the teacher is gay, and I DO NOT in any means imply that in a derogative way, and I do apologize if anything I have said was hurtful). My target was then dragged away by her friends so that they could go watch a movie somewhere.

    I felt good about the interaction, but I felt something was "missing". I didn't feel that she would've been comfortable with me texting her later on that night, or talking on facebook on a regular basis. After some thinking later, I discovered I was missing the "comfort" aspect of the "pick up". I was able to build enough attraction, and to keep attention, and to build intrigue, however, I didn't build enough comfort, and to be completely honest, all of the scripted routines for comfort, I just don't use them, due to the lack of versatility. Usually comfort just comes naturally to me, and my target, but this situation seems a little different. I can't seem to build comfort, or at least I don't know how to build comfort with this one individual girl. Any tips on some "foolproof" comfort building?

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    Default Re: Foolproof Comfort?

    By the looks of it, you didn't utilize your time properly, you spent too much joking and building rapport with EVERYONE. Yeah, you should have given your target less attention, but you became a comedian and it backfired because you didn't eget ANYTHING done, sure you made them laugh and they all see you as a funny charming guy .. but aside from that, did it serve a purpose to get closer with the target? probably not.

    In the situation, a few jokes are always good, put target on the spot by making fun of her with other girls and according to her reaction, maybe add a little Kino. But always remember, don't adopt anyone's Mindset, i think because of that, you weren't yourself, because you didn't adapt it well enough with oyur own and I sense you didn't feel too comfortable in the situation yourself. When we try to adapt to being "someone else" or a typical style" we think girls like, we need to know how to do it before we act it out. Most of it, should STILL be yourself.

    Now that you have her attention and if you are still in her head, then I'd say, when you see her next, just be yourself, crack a few jokes and give her slightly more attention, and remember too much mystery is no good as you said, you tend to flutter away the real stuff and do a lot of comedy.


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