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    Hi,

    I turned 21, I moved from cali 5 years ago and now I live in a rich area in portland, oregon ! lots of stuck up snobs ... I'm 6'4'' 240 pounds pretty lean ( I use hormones ), I know that there aren't many people at my age that are like my size, I'm a big muscular boy ! I used to do modeling from 12 - 16 but as I got older I wasn't interested, so I guess im goodlookin

    but the problem is, I just can't smile, I have this macho man mentality which I think it's because I'm not mature yet, maybe i got pscychological problems thats why i did bodybuilding and juiced up, but anyways not smiling also causes intimidation! and you know I don't want to get rejected because I'm a bodybuilder and kinda popular between friends and at the gym, I feel that would bring my confidence down to get rejected and id be like bitch who the hell are you to turn me down ? so I don't like to approach ...You knoww ?? I'm kinda cocky too (... I just can't see myself walkin to a girl and playing all those games because id think Id look funny cuz Im da man ! kinda farked up in the head lol

    any advice on how I can change myself ?
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    Default Re: a bodybuilder needs advice

    You will get rejected by women. Period. It's going to happen, no matter what. Your gym mates will have more respect for you if you go for a HB, even when you're turned down.

    The fact you can't smile doesn't have to be because of psychological problems. Maybe you're just unhappy. Success with women will improve your happiness. Try reading up on 'Positive Psychology'. It's a new branch of psychology that focuses on improving your happiness by using competencies you naturally excel at.

    Being happy, confident and satisfied with yourself are basic musts before starting on pick-up.

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    Default Re: a bodybuilder needs advice

    ya, how do you handle the too much heartbeat when you talk to a hottie ? sh1t, even cardio isn't intense as talking to a hottie...


    and by smiling, I am happy but I feel like smiling is for nice guys and weirdos where I am the macho man and I'm about to fight... lol damn man ! it's weird, you are from europe, id be nicer if a homeboy makes some comments since girls in here are different

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    Default Re: a bodybuilder needs advice

    The first time you do cardio your heartbeat goes through the roof. But if you do the same exercise the same amount of time 20 times, your heartbeat will be much lower. The same goes for talking to women.

    Look, smiling is not for 'nice guys'. It's showing you're feeling good and confident. Which is attractive to women. And not only to women, but people in general. Everyone likes a smiler more. Let your muscle do the 'don't fark with me' talk. That's much more effective than putting up a touch face.

    Imagine being an 18-year old HB8. You, the macho guy, sit next to her looking all tough (probably angry in her eyes). That intimidates her and doesn't make you seem accessible. She is just a small girl and can never defend herself against you. She needs to feel you'll protect her rather than attack. Where as you smile, she will have a good feeling with you.

    And me being from Europe makes no difference. All the theory/books I read are from the U.S. and Dutch girls aren't known for their easiness .

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    Default Re: a bodybuilder needs advice

    Maybe start by being a little nicer to people who take the time responding to you.

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    Default Re: a bodybuilder needs advice

    Don't worry too much, brother. First off, smiling isn't for whom you refer to as "nice guys" or "weirdos", cuz dude, you'd be referring to every single happy and/or successful human being on Earth. Smiling's one of the most important aspects of body language (your body includes your face). It makes you look approachable to anyone, not just women. Don't worry about smiling ruining your "badassery" - you've got the body dude; use that as a sign that you're a guy people can look up to, and smile to prove it.

    Seriously, look at the great Arnold S. He's the king of bodybuilding and he pretty much smiles through all his appearances. And he gets laid. A lot.

    Ever watched movies? Almost all the badass characters who get the ladies show off their confidence by smiling. And as for the big brutish non-smiling henchmen sent by the villain in action movies to take out the heroes? Well, they're not even important - those are characters the audience doesn't care about. So in fact, NOT SMILING makes you look like a weirdo. Get it? So let loose a bit dude. Save the intimidation for protecting your future girl from any thugs that try to cross you two.


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