I'm relatively new to the whole idea of game. Long story short, I've been battling depression/anxiety but seem to be doing a lot better lately so I've become a lot more comfortable around girls. I've banged 25+ girls that I've met online, and one that I used to work with. She introduced herself to me and basically was all over me whenever I showed the slightest interest.
But my game has huge holes in it. There are awkward silences sometimes, and to head that off I sometimes just end the convo early. I tend to agree with girls and when they tell stories I honestly don't care sometimes so I just reply "yeah..." or "uh uhuh" instead of turning it into a story or something to let her show her feelings.
A big part of my anxiety that I'm still getting over is that I'm sometimes very paranoid. I feel like everyone in the room is focusing on me and it makes me very nervous and I fumble and stumble around. This makes Kino extremely hard for me to initiate. I'm afraid to put my arm around a girl or hold her hand at times because I feel like my boss, or her girlfriends or a stranger will see us and she will react negatively and then it will embarrass me. When I have a girl alone there's no problems advancing and escalating to sex. But I usually try and escalate via text, which works really well on some girls but not others. Bottom line is flirting in person is a powerful tool that everyone needs. You can't get very far with text-only escalation. You can get some girls but not the ones I want. Luckily my anxiety has gone down a ton and now I'm going up and talking to girls at work and in public, smiling at them and just saying hi as they pass by. It makes me feel great because a few weeks ago I couldn't even look a girl in the face let alone initiate a conversation.
But I really do suck at sustained conversations. I need to improve that for sure. And I'm really awkward at initiating kino. I've been trying my hardest to introduce it, but haven't had any results yet. My main methods are pointing to and touching a spot on her shirt and asking "what's that?" in a laughing tone, sort of a neg. Sometimes I'll throw in "you need a bib?" or some smart-a** comment too depending on her reaction. I also have been using the "wipe something off their shirt/face" such as a piece of lint. I've done that one about 5 times in the past few days. I give high fives to a few girls I see regularly. But those girls are probably long gone, and have LJBF me in their mind since I've known them for 2+ years and never made a move. They don't know it's because of depression/anxiety...and lately I've become a new person so maybe their opinion will change. That's about it though. With new girls, kino is alright but I can't put my arm around them or hold their hand right away, it's still too awkward. Hopefully the more I try it the more natural it will feel.
Anyway does anyone have any tips/stories on when they first started with game and especially kino? I've read a bunch of articles so I know how important it is to implement it often.