Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Results 1 to 8 of 8

Thread: Anxiety Tips

  1. #1
    monarch is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 82, Level: 1
    Level completed: 64%, Points required for next Level: 18
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Posts
    6
    Points
    82
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Anxiety Tips

    Hey guys just wanted to give a quick post on anxiety and approach new to the scene, but been around the block.

    Think of your mouth as an engine, on a cold morning it’s slow to start and on really cold mornings it doesn’t start at all, so all the references I’ve seen about hitting malls, stores etc beforehand work but below are a few things I do and work well with getting your mouth started, some situational techniques work when doing the circuit solo.

    (1) Start talking at the door as soon as you get there “door man” (“what’s up”, “how’s it looking inside” “any action tonight” doormen are your best friend get to know them!!
    (2) Walking inside “coat check or hostess” same thing if HB compliment her, neg her, tease her “be careful with this coat I just jacked it from the pimp I saw two blocks down the street he might come looking for it” keep it up for a few seconds talking is a snowball effect the more you do it the more momentum you will build
    (3) Know your scene: who’s promoting the club/bar that night, who’s DJing that night, was there a local event in the area, this will help with opening your sets because it’s relative to your situation gives you a common starting place and if you play it right gives you the appearance of being in the mix dhv
    (4) I like to frequent a few high profile clubs/bars so I get to know the doormen, bartenders, hostesses, waitresses, dancers etc. etc. this is good if you are working alone. Immediate interaction with people you’re already familiar with, and DHV.
    (5) And lastly if you’re really having a case of cold tongue open lower value sets to get you in the mood do it quick and courteously so it appears as you are just working the room. Something simple like 3 girls standing/sitting (you know chicks have it so easy nowadays not having to pay a cover, I think this whole equal opportunity thing is getting out of control) always gets a hahaha,blablabla in lower value sets their happy someone is just noticing them lol!

    Always be up beat and smiling women like to be around happy/confident guys so remember open stance, act as if, and be the guy they don’t see coming. If your still having trouble then bail on the club and hit that mall/store or whatever to get a little practice time in.

    Open to other suggestions, happy hunting boys!

  2. #2
    badboy911 is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 155, Level: 3
    Level completed: 10%, Points required for next Level: 45
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Location
    NYC/ North NJ
    Posts
    40
    Points
    155
    Level
    3
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    15

    Default Re: Anxiety Tips

    nice, everything there is awesome

  3. #3
    crushedhat is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 134, Level: 2
    Level completed: 68%, Points required for next Level: 16
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    31 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    6
    Points
    134
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Anxiety Tips

    Monarch, what is your opinion on people with aa starting there night with a shoot down set? I am kind on the edge about this.

    I'll use myself as an example. In bars, it feels a lot easier for me to make an approach, but when it comes to a crowded club I find myself having more of a fear of everyone being so close to me when I am trying to open.

  4. #4
    Suavegamer is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 229, Level: 4
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Vancouver, Canada
    Posts
    36
    Points
    229
    Level
    4
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    14

    Default Re: Anxiety Tips

    Thanks Monarch! I'll definitely try some of this out...

  5. #5
    Puss world is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 97, Level: 1
    Level completed: 94%, Points required for next Level: 3
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    20
    Points
    97
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Anxiety Tips

    Go in to crash and burn, be deattached from the results

  6. #6
    Puss world is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 97, Level: 1
    Level completed: 94%, Points required for next Level: 3
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    20
    Points
    97
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Anxiety Tips

    Thanks for the tips!

  7. #7
    GeinoD is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 86, Level: 1
    Level completed: 72%, Points required for next Level: 14
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    12
    Points
    86
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    10

    Default Re: Anxiety Tips

    I actually use some of these when I first enter a bar. I walk in and shake hands with the doormen, the waiters/waitress, then I walk around the bar and make an effort to reach over the bar to shake hands/fist bump the bartenders and maybe chit chat about how they are doing. If I spot any potential target while I’m doing this I will sometimes walk up next to them to do this so they see that I’m a known man in this place and that everyone likes me.
    I’ve also used this in some cases to give me my opener with any targets that I have already spotted. Great information, thanks for the post. This also gives me kind of a way to get warmed up as you stated.

  8. #8
    MattPh1974 is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 51, Level: 1
    Level completed: 2%, Points required for next Level: 49
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Posts
    17
    Points
    51
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Anxiety Tips

    Agreed. You should be friendly with everyone in the club!!!!


Similar Threads

  1. Social Anxiety
    By Hylo in forum General Questions
    Replies: 18
    Last Thread: 09-05-2011, 06:05 AM
  2. Advice For Approach anxiety
    By jbone in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 1
    Last Thread: 07-24-2011, 01:21 PM
  3. Date Anxiety
    By Raven in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 12-29-2010, 06:27 PM
  4. How to get over approach anxiety!
    By RokStarz in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 11-18-2008, 02:25 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com