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    Default She says she's over it

    Ive had an ongoing thing with this one girl, and I haven't seen her much over the summer thanks to summer vacation from college and what not. I haven't been texting her as much as I used to, due to me not seeing her since the end of June. Now we're back in college and every plan we've made to meet up hasn't worked out for whatever reason. She just recently posted up a fb status with her friends saying that she's so over it, with everyone in her friend group liking her status. One girl says what is she over, she says a certain person (which is me).

    I know when a girl says something like this, she's pretty emotionally vulnerable and that in most cases she doesn't mean it especially if its something that isn't serious like this.

    Some background, she REALLY likes/ed me, it was pretty obvious to everyone of my friends and hers.

    The reason I haven't been keeping contact with her too much is very simple- too much talk and not enough meeting up leads to her getting bored quicker (it was impossible to meet up with her in the summer). I think this thinking just stabbed me in the foot.

    What should I do/say to her over phone or in person (starts off with phone though since I don't see her easily) to get back on track?

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    Default Re: She says she's over it

    DOnt worry about it my boy, i feel this one may have got away from you. to win her back may casue you far more stress then is needed and risk a far larger hit to your repuation. especially if shes already trying to gain soem social high ground, issue witht hat is, women can say what they like withotu being jduged, men cant, if you start saying the same thing you'll be teh bad guy even if she did it all.
    so heres what you do
    be nice about it, yeah its hard yeah its annoying but be understanding and fine with it, agree with her reasons have a alaugh about it(even if it hurts)
    this is super passive aggressive and will killer her and if it looks like you mean it, she c ant be angry or bitch about it unless she lies, and in that case, she will get called on it.
    general in social circumstance, comupance is always given, she will lose the highground the moment she tries tob ring you down(highground she got simply by acting fisrt)
    if you want to piss her off, look at her events page and attend every event shes attending. dont go of course but her lovely little awquard avoiding genes will push her away. again if you get asked be calm, cool say you thought it would be random"why whats the problem?" ha! got her, she cant really explain, if she says she doesnt want you to go blah blah simply say" why you trying to control me?" then leave or haev another nicely aimed passive jabs if she replies but dont start conversations dont doanything after the inital"yeah i agree we wouldnt work" bit.

    so sorry to hear you lost out due to whatever reason. women can be cruel. but dont worry about it, carry on and if shes being co ld then as soon as you seam to be having fun with another girl she'll crawl right back, or atleast ignore you. probably bitcha bout you ...but who cares.seriosuly, who would care! her and you? you obvisouly dont,a nd if she thinks shes the only one that cares then she will hate that. lol

    advice - move on, and move on well!

    best of luck
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    responsive to change." Charles Darwin

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    Default Re: She says she's over it

    Girls who tend to post stuff like that on facebook tend to be the girls that are clearly not over it. If you were over it, you wouldn't have to make it a status as it wouldn't be a thought in your mind. So, I doubt she is over it. She just probably put it up to play that game with you when she thinks you care enough to come crawling back to her.
    Kill them with kindness is what people say, and in a variation of what Bradders said, do the same. Be nonchalant, civil, and social. She will look at you and want to think you are a jerk, but deep down, she knows you didn't do anything wrong. It will all cycle through eventually and she will realize that she can't hold it against you. Again, unless there is part of the story we don't know, she really has no right to be mad at you or upset with you if by just chance you guys couldn't meet up.
    However, girls that tend to act that way without understanding circumstances can lead to people having difficulties in hanging out, well, they tend to be the ones that are just NEVER understanding about anything. So you might have even dodged that bullet.
    Clearly, you are in school (college), and from my past experience in college, there are plenty of girls out there to go play with. Just move forward. If you truly want this girl, it seems she still has interest in you. She wouldn't of posted that status up if she didn't care. You can try to make her understand, but the question is, is it worth the hassle?

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    Default Re: She says she's over it

    There really is no other backstory than what I said. it's a very simple situation.

    Thing with me is, I don't text too often, and I only keep in close touch with good friends. Even at this point, i'm still confused as to how I should be texting hookup-buddies. Too little and this happens, too much and you're needy.

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    Default Re: She says she's over it

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    Default Re: She says she's over it

    again my friend mrhydra clairifies! this was essentialy what iw as saying but with simpler and more experince under the belt im sure! with kindness you'll win, rely on his message he knows his stuff and not far from mine anyway.! you'll beg ine my friend

    best of luck
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    Default Re: She says she's over it

    Perfect.

    Well I put up another fb status today just for the hell of it, she was the first to like it within 2 seconds. Alright cool, she's stalking my fb and I know it. I shoot her a text:

    "Hey you, I want to see your face today, you on campus?"

    From there, she replies sounding excited and all, so I go over to her sorority house and hang around her and the girls for a while. The girls there really liked me, a few of them were eye-f**king me up and down. Whenever a girl would start flirting, she would have a little smirk on her face which I know all too well. Basically, it's the "back off" smirk.

    Everything's back the way I want it now.

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    Default Re: She says she's over it

    See. Told you, it was all for attention. She only did it for the temporary feel of relieve that she thought she was so over it (being you). However, deep down, she wants you still.

    Just be careful man. I am not saying I know her at all, but I have known A LOT of women in my day. So just be careful of those little girl games she may play. Good luck though and glad to hear it's back to the way it was.

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    Default Re: She says she's over it

    Mr Hyde nailed it. I was in a similar situation wherein i ran into this girl i'd been hooking up with a few times and texting with at a bar and everytime i'd go over to dance she'd grease me off. I was pretty pissed off that night so i didn't contact her and waited for her to contact me. She messaged within a week asking how my night was that night. A part of me wanted to call her out for being so cold but I went ultra positive on that shit just saying I had an awesome time, great to see her etc. to mindfuck whatever game she was pulling.
    So yeh, my approach when a chick starts playing dumb games is just pull back and focus your attention elsewhere on something you enjoy. stay ultra positive and she'll miss your energy soon enough.


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