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    Default Advice on women appologizing too much

    Hey guys. I've been thinking about a particular situation that I've been coming across a couple times the past week.

    Girls are continuously appologizing for things that don't bother me at all.

    Is this an ioi? or is it some kind of sh1t test to get me to comply with them? or am I just over analyzing?

    For example, if I accept their appology for something minor am I dlv? Is there a way to dhv without looking like a jerk while accepting their appology?

    Most of the time I just say "No worries" and not pay too much attention to it and move the conversation elsewhere. They may be extra sensitive due to my friends over "negging" mentality, but it's just a guess.

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    Default Re: Advice on women appologizing too much

    Bump cause I'd like to see some good advice here as well.

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    Default Re: Advice on women appologizing too much

    It really depends on what they're apologizing for. If it's something stupid or insignificant(to me) I won't even really acknowledge her apology. It sort of depends on how much effort/sincere her apology is.

    They could be tests to see how reactive you are being to her, and thus give her an idea of where your value is relative to hers.

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    Default Re: Advice on women appologizing too much

    Sounds to me that they are women that lack self confidence if they feel the need to keep apologising for silly little things. Either that or you make them nervous, because they really like you and they're worrieda about saying/doing the wrong thing.

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    Default Re: Advice on women appologizing too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Sex&DatingRebecca View Post
    Sounds to me that they are women that lack self confidence if they feel the need to keep apologising for silly little things. Either that or you make them nervous, because they really like you and they're worrieda about saying/doing the wrong thing.
    Yeah I agree with this. I personally hate when people say "I'm sorry" it's such a dlv. There's other ways of admitting you farked up then to say I'm sorry. You shouldn't be sorry for anything you do cause everything happens for a reason and you learn from your mistakes. But yeah its usually a nerves thing or has to do with self-confidence, and some people just use it regularly in speech out of habit.
    In life you get what you put into it.

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    Default Re: Advice on women appologizing too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Yolo007 View Post
    Some people just use it regularly in speech out of habit.
    Very true. Women's socialization processes make them ultra aware of infringing upon other's personal space/neutralizing vibes and moods. Girls will say sorry for things that warrant no apology: if YOU bump into HER, she will say sorry. If her bookbag is the slightest bit in your way, she will apologize. It's just modern day culture.

    My favorite way to dhv off of it is to call it to her attention.

    "Oh, sorry."

    "You have no need to be." or "Don't be." or "Why?" Why are you sorry? Then tell her she shouldn't apologize for things she has no need to feel sorry for. She'll gain respect for you in the process.
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    Default Re: Advice on women appologizing too much

    I have to say it iritates me when people over apologise - I end up pointing out to them that they always apologise when they don't need to and I ask them to stop.

    All you do is fuel their apologies when you say 'no need to be sorry' or 'its ok don't worry about it'. It's best to directly address it/point it out so they become self concious about saying it - and then conciously try not to.

    Guys do it to me - and I lose attraction very quickly if they do, because I want someone to be assertive and confident. Let me be clear that I'm not suggesting people should never apologise - but silly little constant apologies for everything are annoying.

    I don't think its any sort of Game plan so I wouldn't over analyse.

    Sometimes when people say 'sorry' for little things I go back at them and cheekily say - "you will be!" That usually lightens the moment and stops constant further apologies

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    Default Re: Advice on women appologizing too much

    Usually when you say stop apologizing - they say 'Sorry!' hahaha


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