Re: How to make friends with girls - Need a social life
You shouldn't feel feminine for any of that, especially not wanting short term pleasure at the cost of betraying your values, because staying true to your values and shunning your base desires is what a mature man would do. But, at the same time, try to withhold cuddling, long talks and more from women (giving in enough so that you fulfill her emotionally, but don't overdo it). You always want to leave them in the position of desiring something or having their needs just met, which keeps them chasing and desiring you. So in regards to cuddling, you might do it reluctantly even though deep down all guys do like to cuddle and love it when a girl snuggles into them (unless it's UFC night, the Super Bowl is on, etc). Put on that masculine outer shell. Women are always trying to fix people, so they like a hardened man because they want to try to soften them, so put up that harder, masculine front so she will try to soften you.
You need to be seasoned more to get less emotional. The more you see,the more tragedy you experience and the more experience you have with women the more you'll grow somewhat bitter and jaded but also much, much wiser and more interesting. I think being and feeling masculine comes as a result of personal growth, and by undertaking traditionally masculine endeavors. Nothing makes you feel more manly than fighting someone in a ring, graduating bootcamp, fighting on a battlefield, grilling a steak out in the middle of the woods on a fishing trip and eating it with your hands, hunting, etc. Maybe you just need to do more of that kind of stuff to grow your confidence and unleash the inner beast, so to speak. By doing those kinds of things you also enlarge your social circle, which is why I advocate getting involved with things and joining teams to obtain a fuller social life than meeting random strangers are bars and clubs (although if you can meet people that way, it's cool too, some folks are good at it).
Women want to win a man over, they do not want a man who tries to win them over. When you overtly try to win a woman over by being "nice," buying her stuff, or telling her your feelings, you're assuming the female role, and depriving a woman of her natural role. Make her put you on her pedestal, don't put her on yours. - Raven Maxim #7