Ok Im new to this whole PUA stuff. My first problem was pretty much Approach Anxiety. Unless I was buzzed or with buddies at a house party, and had social momentum going, approaching felt awkard.. Either through my new job which has people approaching me constantly with questions or some of the stuff ive read, its quite a bit easier now.
Anyway went to a loud club the other night, approached a few sets. One tried introducing myself to 2 girls and a guy, and basically they just walked away, felt so dlv. Other group of 3 girls I said something like "looks like the parties over here", "whats going on" and got a response "this is a girls night only thing", so I just left.
The place was packed, so even when I was sitting at a table with buddies facing the crowd. Occasionally there would be a road block of people infront of us. Some girls would have to stand right infront of me, and if they looked over and smiled I would say something to them. Although with the music so loud, you have to yell in someones ear to talk, and saying "whats going on" or "hows your night going", "you here with friends" the convo lasts about 5 seconds, and is lame.
So that kinda sucked hard. Also the reason I say I feel almost worse is, before I would never try and talk to people this much. I would usually only talk to a girl if we were all in a group at a party or something and I was talking to kind of everyone at once. I was always overly cocky/sarcastic/funny. And some girls would find that too much and some would like it. Although now that im trying to engage new people mostly 1 on 1. I have to be more personable and that whole I dont give a fuck method, doesnt work if I actually want to connect with someone that doesnt already know all my friends or me (stranger).
Just a bit confused and discouraged. Ive mainly been looking at stuff from thesocialman, reading the game by neil strauss, and some daygame stuff. Although it all varies and it almost confuses me more, as I now remember various canned lines from different programs in different situations.