Five Tips on Approaching Women

Men and women can be as different as aliens from another planet, but when it comes to dating, both have the same fears. Both are afraid that if they approach someone they find interesting or attractive, they will be rejected. In fact, the majority of both men and women say that is the number one thing that keeps them from walking up to someone they’d like to date.

Here are five tips to approach women:

Approach Women Tip #1

1. Look at her body language. Does she look like she wants to be approached. Does she look open? Or are her arms crossed and is she looking down. Keep in mind that for some women, these are not signs of disinterest, but rather are signs of insecurity. If you see other flirting signs, proceed.

If a girl is smiling at you, making eye contact and has open body language (arms and legs uncrossed), you are completely blowing it if you don’t walk up to her. She could not send a stronger signal that she wants you to approach her. If she seems friendly, she wants you to approach.

Approach Women Tip #2

2, Make sure you have good body posture that exudes confidence. Put your shoulders back, take a few deep breaths, and make eye contact with those around you. At the same time, you have to banish any negative self-talk that might be running through your mind.

Approach Women Tip #3

3. As I mentioned above, you need to get rid of any negative thoughts or feelings coursing throughout your body. But here’s step number three: you need to replace those negative comments with positive ones. They can be about you or about your intended romantic target. For instance, you can say to yourself “You are smoking, lady.” If you think this, your body signals will send her that message ten fold. You can also direct some of that happy self-talk to yourself. For instance, you might say, “I’m cool and smart and would be a catch for any girl.”


Approach Women Tip #4

4. Set up your offense in the flirting zone (read more about how to flirt here). Make sure you are within five feet of the girl you want to approach. If you are further away than that, there is a good chance they won’t even notice you. And if they are insecure themselves, this goes doubly so.

So, smoothly plant yourself within flirting distance somehow or other.

Approach Women Tip #5

5. Establish eye contact. Make sure they see you and stare at them. But for now longer than a few seconds. Any longer than that and it’s creepy. After locking eyes for about four seconds, look away. Then, almost immediately look back and give a big sexy smile. At the same time, think those same words to yourself you were thinking earlier. (If they were about you earlier, make sure now they are about her.) So, lock eyes, smile, and think “You are smokin hot!”

Then, see how she responds. If she smiles back, you are in!